I’m concerned about the age-related odor or body odor of my papa in his 50s.

There are certain smells you like and others you just can’t stand, right? I’ve heard something about DNA being similar to your father’s or something like that. I once met a man in his 50s whose natural scent smelled like roses to me. It didn’t seem to be his cologne or fabric softener—I asked him all sorts of questions, and I was honestly shocked ((((；ﾟДﾟ)))) lol.

The odor issue is a difficult one, because age-related changes in body odor are unavoidable. You’re very observant to have noticed the smell behind your papa’s ears. That’s impressive. I’m no expert, but the area behind the ears is prone to retaining odors. Perfume and eau de cologne are commonly applied there, and it’s also a spot that’s difficult—or easy to forget—to wash. So, when you shower together, gently scrubbing the area for him might be one option. Telling someone about their odor requires a pretty advanced level of tact. It’s a sensitive issue, and depending on how you say it, they may feel that you’re rejecting them as a person. First of all, I think “You stink” is definitely off-limits. Still, if you want to continue seeing him, it’s probably best to bring it up properly. I think it’s important to include yourself in the comment rather than singling him out. For example: “I might have an odor too, but the area behind your ears is a little strong, so I’ll wash it for you.” In any case, think carefully about how you phrase it and try to approach it tactfully. I hope things continue to go well for you.

Once you’re over 30, you’re usually going to smell no matter what. Wash your hair and ears thoroughly, and use deodorant around your neck—perfume won’t cut it. For your breath, the best thing is to keep sucking on something. It all comes down to how much effort you put in. Tell them they smell, but do it tactfully and kindly.