I’m often asked for a serious relationship, but I joined seeking a transactional relationship, so I’m struggling because the demand and supply don’t seem to match.

So many questions. First and foremost, this isn’t a sex-work service. The club only makes the introduction, and any arrangements after that are for the two people involved to decide freely. You should clearly communicate what you want from the start, and not continue seeing anyone who won’t listen. Since you’re not doing that, you’re basically letting yourself get carried along. I find it strange that you don’t simply say, “If you can’t pay the allowance annually, we’re done.” If you can’t say it directly, you could just avoid making the next plans, block him on LINE, and end things that way. There’s no point expecting the club to resolve issues that arise after the introduction. You have to handle them yourself. You want to be in a relationship, but you’ve ended up in a friends-with-benefits situation. Saying it’s your friend’s fault for not explaining things properly is basically the same as saying, “My friend is to blame for this,” lol.

I also wanted a serious relationship with as few papas as possible—ideally just one—so even when other papas were interested in me, I often couldn’t reciprocate. I think that’s just the way it is. You’ll probably meet someone eventually who’s looking for a relationship with multiple partners, or something with more of a transactional feel. Why not wait until then? (Although a papa who doesn’t give you any money after a year seems less “serious” and more just cheap…)

> A transactional relationship involving money That’s exactly why I think you can let it become something deeper. Rather than waiting a full year, once about six months have passed, you could say, “I’d like next year’s allowance too—and the year after that, if possible.” If you trust him enough to become that deeply involved, you should go for it. I think you simply haven’t built a relationship where you can rely on each other. From the man’s perspective, giving you a full year’s allowance means he trusts you enough to be okay with you disappearing and never seeing him again, even though there would still be about 12 months left. And since he’s even considering giving you more money in the future, he won’t resent you for relying on him. Money can help you build a level of trust that would normally be impossible. Instead of growing distant, I think you’ll find more benefits by making the relationship fulfilling in many ways, including on a personal level. A relationship where you can rely on each other to deal with things involving money—things you normally couldn’t discuss with friends, or even secrets from your boyfriend or husband—is quite valuable.

> I’m struggling emotionally and can’t bring myself to say it clearly. Then this probably isn’t for you. I recommend leaving papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). That was rather cold of me. Sorry. > Responding with the same mindset as I would at work I think that’s admirable. Unfortunately, though, you’re not doing a very good job. Why? Because you haven’t clearly communicated your terms (of the arrangement) to the other person—and it’s causing you emotional distress. If that’s the case, then you should quit. I’m being cold again, aren’t I? Your skill lies in clearly communicating what you want to your papa (a male supporter), getting him to accept it, and continuing the relationship. If you’re treating this as a job, please find a way to overcome this hurdle. Being a papa (a male supporter) isn’t just about taking off your panties. The key is figuring out how to loosen your papa’s purse strings while keeping him happy. Good luck!

Since you were told it was on a yearly basis, you should have asked for it yourself on the 366th day. The club doesn’t get involved after the second meeting, and after 50 meetings, there’s really nothing they can do. They’re a for-profit business that only charges for making the initial introduction. Dump the idiot man who won’t pay unless you ask him yourself on the 366th day. P.S. Maybe try fake-crying and saying, “I don’t have enough money to live.” I’d pay.