When it comes to preventing STIs, I find it difficult to accept the attitude of “we’re adults, so it’s too late to worry about that now.” I can’t say that men are always the only ones at fault, but there’s no doubt that their cooperation is a major factor.

I tell them right from the first meeting. Because of that, I’ve even had women assume I had an STI and say some outrageous things to me. Still, since this is a dating club, I naturally consider all registered men and women—including myself—to be potential risks. So I only date women who agree with my way of thinking. Some registered women agreed to an adult relationship (intimate) and got tested, but later decided not to go through with it. There are all kinds of situations, but please stay safe.

Everyone has their own way of thinking about it. Whether I’m actually putting it into practice or not, I agree with your perspective. At first, I found it very uncomfortable and inconvenient, but I now get tested regularly. The doctor at the clinic I go to was understanding, so I’ve become much less hesitant. Once you get used to it, it’s no big deal. That said, getting tested doesn’t make anything completely risk-free, and I don’t think I’m doing anything too reckless. I also hope your perspective catches on with both men and women.

First, what exactly are you referring to when you say, “You’re already an adult, so it’s too late now”? If you mean Taro’s statement, “Now that you’re an adult, you should manage your own risks,” then I don’t see any contradiction between Taro’s answer and “openly asking your dating partner to take precautions.” Asking your partner to take precautions is one way of managing risk. Who prohibited you from “openly asking your dating partner to take precautions”? You say, “At this club, you mustn’t discuss such things with men,” but it isn’t prohibited by the rules. So where did that idea come from? What the questioner is concerned about is, I think, part of what dating clubs refer to as “chemistry.” A dating club isn’t a place where you’re required to pursue a relationship with everyone you meet. Those roughly 80% of men have probably simply stopped contacting you because they didn’t feel a connection with you. I think you should consider pursuing relationships with the remaining roughly 20%—the men with whom you do share good chemistry. It seems to me that the questioner has started from the wrong premise. The basic principle is that you don’t pursue a relationship with someone if you don’t click with them. This is an important point.