Lately, there seem to be more and more people who flaunt their “righteous” opinions and talk down to others like this, and it’s honestly disgusting…
First of all, you’re an adult, so you should be managing your own risks. There’s no such thing as another person who will always treat you exactly as you’d like. It’s the same as a new employee who doesn’t understand how society works complaining because their boss doesn’t measure up to their “ideal boss.” There’s no such thing as an “ideal boss” or an “ideal male member.” All you have is yourself, responding to the situation. If you can accept it, keep going. If you can’t, either discuss it and find a compromise, fight it out and assert yourself, or simply stop seeing them if you don’t like it. That’s how the whole world works, not just dating clubs. Why is it so hard for people to understand something so obvious?
Second, people answering questions on a Q&A site aren’t being asked to give objectively correct opinions. If anything, they’re being asked to show their true selves, regardless of all that. So it’s perfectly fine if an answer isn’t correct, isn’t balanced, or even completely misunderstands the question. What’s expected of the person answering is to show their raw reaction to the situation, and readers can take whatever sense of reality they get from it. Whether that’s good or bad is for each reader to decide. This isn’t a place for reaching a consensus.
In the first place, go back and read the question that started all this. It was basically asking, “How do you deal with STIs when doing 8P?” Right? If you’re going to take the morally righteous position, shouldn’t the answer simply be, “Huh? Don’t do 8P, idiot,” and end there? Ignoring that point, then suddenly pulling out the moralizing halfway through and acting like, “This person is an idiot”—isn’t that bizarre?
The whole story about that entertainment agency disgusts me too. They benefited from going along with it, so what the hell are they saying now, after the person involved has died? Of course there are problems within the industry, but the agency can’t exactly say, “Talk about what’s happening now.” It’s creepy because it feels like they know exactly what they’re doing. And the issue isn’t really about one dead individual in the first place. It’s not even about passing laws to protect minors. Whether someone is a minor or an adult, these things are still happening now, yet they refuse to confront that reality head-on. The cowardice is completely different from the #MeToo movement a while back, and it honestly makes me sick. I hate it.
Taro
I think everyone gives it careful thought and chooses the arrangement that feels most reasonable for them.
As for me, after considering various factors, I only see one person.
There are also women who agree with my way of thinking and choose to keep their number of partners to a minimum so they can date safely.
Please think things through and choose the approach that works best for you.
