Dating clubs as a safety net for women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)

Kida here with my response. First of all, I sincerely apologize for taking so long to reply. I’m sorry, but let me say one thing first: It’s long. The question is very long. Wouldn’t this be more of an opinion than a question? That said, your points are perfectly valid. I imagine this is a concern shared by many of our male members. To start with your premise: you pointed out that women can be divided into two groups— A: Women who are open to an intimate relationship B: Women who are not open to an intimate relationship —and that Group A may be becoming smaller than Group B. I think there is another way to look at it. Perhaps there are also these two groups: 1. Women who prioritize chemistry 2. Women who see it strictly as work In the past, the dating club industry tended to follow this pattern: 2A → 2B → 1A In other words, professional mistresses who would enter into a relationship depending on the terms (the amount of money). I disliked that. Women who searched for “dating clubs” and came in for interviews already tended to be veterans—real pros—from other clubs. It gave me that slight sense of disappointment, that feeling of “This isn’t what I expected,” like when you nervously enter an adult-entertainment venue for the first time. So I decided to increase the number of 1A women—women who are open to an intimate relationship when there is chemistry. Women who prioritize chemistry ≒ that sense of excitement. Rather than people who searched for “dating clubs,” I wanted to find people who didn’t know about dating clubs but needed one, and women with a natural mistress-like temperament. Then, last summer, the number of 2B women increased. Many members left, thinking, “This is the worst.” Then, in March 2018, we decided to make a fresh start. Now, to the main point. ● What our company has done ・We created new area manager positions and assigned staff who could support the branches in resolving problems. Kanto → Takita Western Japan → Matsuzaka New branches → Aso ・To monitor the women’s interviews at each branch, we began recording every Coordinator’s interviews on video and having managers review them. ・We changed the system for modifying dating types and began providing more detailed explanations. ・We changed the interview process for Type A women and for everyone else. ● What we pay attention to ・Seeing through women who are putting on an act ● Regarding dividing clubs into “clubs where adult relationships are not allowed” and “clubs where adult relationships are also possible” “Clubs where adult relationships are not allowed” → 2B (transactional, dinner-only arrangements) “Clubs where adult relationships are also possible” → 2A (professional mistresses) Then where does Group 1 go? That’s why I’m reluctant to divide things that way. Suppose the “deep relationship eventually” desired by 90% of men could be achieved by sorting women into categories and screening them that way. Is that really what you are looking for? The fish in a stocked fishing pond are kept hungry so they will readily take the bait. Fish that have been caught and released are repeatedly caught and released by different anglers. Universe Club wants to be about single-line fishing in the open ocean, not fishing in a stocked pond. A woman may say she cannot have an intimate relationship, but she may also be curious, intelligent, and a little cheeky. She may be moved by being taken to a restaurant she has never visited, by a man’s composure and maturity, or by a conversation and atmosphere she could never have with her boyfriend. Isn’t that moment when she softens up the true appeal of a dating club? You may think that sounds like nothing more than idealistic talk. Saiko Tojo also wrote on Harbor Business Online that you would probably experience something like that less than 1% of the time through app-based encounters. But I believe that miracles can happen through dating-club encounters. If a woman belongs to Group 1—if she prioritizes chemistry—then whether she is A or B makes little difference. I feel that avoiding Group 2, women who see it strictly as work, is Universe Club’s mission. To be blunt, however, if you are unwilling to win a woman over through your own financial strength and skill as a man, and instead insist that the woman take the initiative, you may be better off considering a club other than Universe Club.