I’ve always tried to treat her with care, and we eventually became intimate. But after that, the more often we met, the more businesslike things became—shorter time together, scheduling around her availability,指定 locations, and so on. It really made me face the reality of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).

I feel like the reason may be that he doesn’t enjoy the adult relationship with you. If it’s simply a matter of compatibility, there’s not much you can do, but it’s still worth taking another look to make sure there isn’t anything on your end. As for ending things, I think it would be fine to just fade out. If you stop contacting him, he probably won’t reach out either.

I haven’t even made an offer in the past five years, so I’m practically a beginner, but… Even if things become businesslike, that’s only natural since money is involved. But when you find yourself thinking, “She’s really sweet,” keep your distance—seriously, keep your distance! Even with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it probably doesn’t go as far as a pretend romance, but it’s still a relationship between a man and a woman. Anyway, I hope you handle it well. You could look for another woman, but you’ll probably end up facing the same thing. If that’s the case, I choose the safer, more reassuring option. The holes are basically all the same anyway… Just something to keep in mind.

Rather than worrying about how it ends, you need to reflect on your own behavior… You’re already making her extremely uncomfortable. To revise it: > After finally becoming intimate with a woman, each time we’ve met since then, our relationship has grown closer. > > She seems to enjoy being with me and wants to spend more time together, whether on dates or at a hotel. We can arrange plans immediately—sometimes getting a reply within seconds—and she even accommodates my schedule when choosing the location. It feels so non-businesslike that I’m able to forget it’s papa-katsu, and I’m genuinely happy. > > Please be the kind of papa (a male supporter) who can create that sort of dating experience.

If I were ending things with someone like that, I’d stop contacting her and let things fade out. In most cases, she probably wouldn’t contact me either, and it would simply end there. Even if she did send me a LINE message, ignoring it once would probably be enough to end things. It’s usually that simple. That’s what I’d say at first, but let me complicate things a little. A woman who acts that way isn’t necessarily treating the relationship as a purely businesslike transactional relationship. She may have feelings for you but be overdoing it because, for some reason, she feels she needs to draw a firm line. Or, if she’s a student with little or no experience as a working adult, she may simply lack the basic etiquette for coordinating schedules, which can come across as rude. If something is bothering you, one option is to tell her how you feel and try talking it through. She might cut you off completely. Or she might get defensive and argue back, turning it into a childish fight. Surprisingly, the latter has sometimes led to things developing in a positive direction afterward. The relationship may basically be transactional, but as you talk more, you may realize that she does have a certain level of trust or affection for you. You may also come to understand that her behavior stems from her own circumstances, personal principles, or past trauma. There’s nothing wrong with ending things after understanding that—or with continuing, if you choose. In some cases, continuing has led to a slightly unusual but comfortable relationship for both of us, something I never would have imagined beforehand. Once you gain a certain amount of experience, you start recognizing which patterns simply won’t work. At that point, you can wrap things up quickly and move on. But when you don’t have much experience, it might be better not to focus on handling everything perfectly and instead muddle through in a somewhat clumsy, childish way. Of course, it depends on the person and the situation, and for some people that could become a nuisance, so I can’t recommend it to everyone. I also don’t know what kind of person you are, so I can’t say whether it would be right for you. From a club’s perspective, though, it’s probably best for male members to enjoy things smoothly and without complications, so my initial answer is likely the best one. But I haven’t chosen that approach myself, and I’m glad I didn’t. No—that’s not quite right. I believe it was the better choice for me. And I intend to keep doing things that way. Taro

After becoming an adult relationship (intimate), did anything change in the way you acted or treated her? Even if you weren’t aware of it, if that’s how she felt, it could explain how things have unfolded. If you’re treating it as papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), then looking for someone new when things feel off is perfectly reasonable. I don’t think you need to worry too much about how to end things. But if you want to continue treating her with care even after becoming an adult relationship (intimate), I’d listen to what she has to say before deciding to end things and ask whether anything you did left her feeling hurt or disappointed. —It’s me

The woman you’re seeing doesn’t seem to be that interested in you either, so I think it’s fine to simply fade out.

I don’t know what kind of self-centered fantasy you’re clinging to until the very end, but if you want to turn down a business meeting with a client you barely have any history with, you’d just send an email or make a call saying, “I’m very sorry, but we’ve decided not to move forward with this matter,” and leave it at that, right? Same thing. The fact that you’re agonizing over how to break things off means you still haven’t woken up from your little fantasy world.