Something really upsetting happened to me. It has nothing to do with papa-katsu, but since it involves money, I thought I’d compare it to papa-katsu: papas, how would you deal with it if a girl you liked ran off with your money?
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There’s a guy I like who’s a junior at my university. He said he was short on money, so I lent him several tens of thousands of yen as a way to stay in touch. He then invited me out to dinner, and we agreed that he would pay me back when we met. But he canceled on me at the last minute the day before.
I tend to completely humble myself when it comes to someone I like, so I told him that if he was having a hard time, he didn’t have to pay me back—I just didn’t want him to dislike me. And then, unbelievably, he blocked me on LINE.
I can easily make the money back through papa-katsu, so that part isn’t a big deal. But I’m deeply hurt because it feels like he was making a fool of me.
Genuinely lovestruck papas may have experienced this kind of frustration. How can I get over these feelings?
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I think it’ll take some time, and your anger and regret will gradually fade once you earn the same amount—or maybe about twice as much—through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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When you lend someone money, it’s best to assume you’ll never get it back. The golden rule is: if you’re going to lend it, do so with the intention of giving it away, and don’t chase them for repayment. Everyone has a vulnerable side and an unpleasant side, and money will inevitably bring those sides to the surface. You shouldn’t put an important relationship in that kind of situation.
This isn’t limited to this question, but lately I’ve been seeing a lot of questions from people who let others dictate everything, then complain about it afterward. If you chose the path of becoming a slave and were treated like one, shouldn’t you be happy because things went exactly as you wanted?? Generally speaking, slaves can feel insulted or frustrated at being looked down on, but when you chose it yourself, well... Hmm, if you were being subjected to such an elaborate role-play and this question is meant within that worldview, then I apologize.
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Haha!
It doesn’t sound like a significant amount of money, so just let him have that small change! As Shuttle-san said, try to see this opportunity as a chance to learn.
What you learn through experience will stay with you and help you make better decisions in the future. Even at my age, I’m still learning every day（笑).
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