In the past, I’ve gone on dates with men and received money in return. Please keep that in mind when reading this.
My family’s finances have always been tied to our own business, and most of my relatives are business owners. I thought that might be why, but even when I have money, I’m constantly thinking, “I want more and more.”
So I have no prejudice against papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan); if anything, I support the people who do it.
I’m also unable to manage my own money, so my mother does it for me—because I end up spending it.
Then I repeat the cycle of earning more money.
I feel like it would be good if I could channel this obsession with money into papa-katsu and things like that. What do you think?
This may be none of my business, but there’s one thing that caught my attention: you leave your finances to your mother because you’re unable to manage your money yourself. I suspect that’s why you can’t break out of this cycle.
There’s nothing wrong with spending money freely, but why not try managing at least part of it yourself? Experiencing how money circulates can enrich your life. Of course, there are risks, but in my experience, as long as you follow the golden rules, you won’t suffer a major loss. I’ll share one of those golden rules with you:
“Cut your losses when your investment drops by 10%.”
I’ve multiplied my funds 52-fold over the past three and a half years, you know.
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Obsession with Money
I don’t think that expression is exactly flattering, but in a sense, it is important.
It’s better to think of it as: having money gives you more options than not having it. That’s probably the healthiest way to look at it.
Also, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t something you do because you’re obsessed with money. Please think of it simply as a relationship that comes with an allowance.
Doing papa-katsu just for the money wouldn’t be very enjoyable, would it?
I think many women do papa-katsu during the period when they shine brightest as women. It would be sad if it were only about the money.
Through your relationship with your papa, you may discover perspectives you had never noticed before, or find things that can benefit you personally. I hope you build that kind of relationship.
The woman I’m seeing insists, “Papa-katsu isn’t so bad!”
As for me, I’m always pushing her to do her best（笑）Not literally whipping her with a whip（笑）
She’s become more motivated too, and over the past couple of years, the way she approaches her work has really changed.
I do think she should start preparing for the boyfriend who will eventually come along, but she has absolutely no interest in that!
That worries me a little more—whether she’ll be okay in the future（笑）
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Even if you’re obsessed with money, you won’t be able to earn it unless you’re smart.
Before starting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), make sure you have a solid foundation as a person.
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I think having a strong drive can be useful—whether it’s in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), sports, or work.
It’s precisely because of their focus on money that papas can meet women.
That said, the degree varies from person to person, for both men and women. It can also change depending on who they meet.
I think Date◎Yume once wrote something along the lines of, “I stopped mentioning money altogether.”
Just as some relationships naturally progress from dating to marriage without ever discussing such things, I think papa-katsu is much more likely to continue for years or even decades if the woman doesn’t bring up money herself.
Having to give something only after being asked doesn’t feel good, after all. And it means there’s no surprise or emotional impact—not just for men, but for women too.
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You may become unhappy if you don’t have money, but having money doesn’t necessarily make you happy either. That’s just how money is.
If you don’t reassess your values at some point, you’ll end up spending your whole life chasing money.
Anyway, if you’re poor right now, do whatever you can—including papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—to escape poverty.
As for “affirming” it… I’m not so sure.
Papa-katsu is basically physical labor, isn’t it? The female equivalent of a manual labor job. Still, it’s a thousand times better than not working at all, and I’m sure some people do it willingly and take pride in it. But I get the feeling that more people are doing it reluctantly because they have no other options.
“Obsessed with money,” huh?
And after racking your brain, the answer you came up with was papa-katsu?
At least lie to yourself a little and say, “I’m not obsessed with money—I’m doing papa-katsu right now to learn about life.” You may not realize it, but from the outside, you look pretty pathetic.
If you’re going to call it “being obsessed with money,” then think of a more intelligent way to make money instead of doing backbreaking manual labor.
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