How do you spend time with your papa-katsu partners?

As a man, I make sure to leave some time between meetings so I don’t get bored too quickly. I try to keep things fresh and avoid letting intimacy become routine. We usually go to the same hotel, but I change up the restaurants.

Even when the dates are more or less the same every time, you won’t get bored if you really like your papa (a male supporter)—you can keep it going for years. I’m currently in my seventh year with one of mine, which is the longest so far. If things become stale unless you constantly change up the dates, maybe you’re not that compatible with the other person… That said, some women may want to visit lots of different places, so I think the best thing is to ask your partner directly.

When it’s a favorite girl, I never get tired of seeing her—even after meeting two, three, or four times a week for four or five years. It never becomes routine. That said, I don’t get tired of my wife either, even though I see her every day… - Occasionally take trips or go somewhere farther away We do go on day trips or vacations from time to time. - Change hotels every time We usually go to the same nice, clean place we like. - Try a different restaurant each time If she’s fine with anywhere, we tend to go to the same favorite place. If she’s interested in food, we try somewhere different every time. With someone you continue seeing, the intimate side becomes especially compatible. It feels like continuing to pursue the best possible experience within the same pattern—which might be called a routine. Once you’ve reached that “this is amazing” level, it feels like continuing to challenge that best every time. Afterward, there’s also the comfort of her pressing close, cheek to cheek, holding each other peacefully as we drift off to sleep. Sometimes we keep holding hands and fall asleep without even having time to talk. It’s the same familiar pattern every time, but I never get tired of it—not even after hundreds of times. In fact, I look forward to it every time, and that’s what I meet her for. Year after year. I think some people get bored with routine, while others don’t. For those who do, it may be better to move on to someone new.

Since my dates are basically just dinner and staying over, I change restaurants every time. They’re not high-end places, but I choose restaurants where people tell me the food is delicious. I also look for new places, so my repertoire has grown quite a bit（笑） It’s hard to put into words, but I feel that being in a relationship and having a financial arrangement are slightly different. Also, since women tend to value stability over change, I sometimes wonder whether “getting into a rut” can become an issue in relationships through dating clubs. That said, sticking to the same routine can sometimes make things stable and long-lasting. If it’s a relationship that feels like dating, you’d probably want some variety, right? Some common ideas are anniversaries, how many years you’ve been together, birthdays, seasonal events—things Korean couples seem to do a lot. It might work well to bring those topics up regularly and make concrete plans if your partner is receptive. Or, while casually talking about each other’s current interests, if something comes up that you’d like to try together, just give it a try. Pretty ordinary advice, I know（笑） Oh, and suddenly trying something kinky in bed could count as a change too! A while back, I found a brush with a vibrating tip and thought it might turn into some kind of wild adult-video scene, but it just ended with me looking like a ridiculous lord from a comedy sketch（笑）. By the way, it was one of those things that cost around 1,500 yen on Amazon. Maybe a more expensive one would have been amazing, but I couldn’t find one back then. I think it’s best to put effort into the areas you’re good at. Taro