And as for the male members here—especially those answering questions on the forum—have you been brainwashed into becoming lapdogs for the club?

If I may, I’d like to answer your questions one by one. “ The club’s dog” → I’m not aware of that, but you may be right. That said, there’s no denying that I’m Hassaku, the Mame Shiba owned by Joe. “Because you were born with a bad personality” → Just as you pointed out. Unfortunately, I can’t deny it. “While putting other people’s faults on the shelf” → Didn’t you mean “while putting your own faults on the shelf”? “Be kind” → What is kindness, anyway? “Because you wish to remain anonymous” → Well, if you say that, it’s all over. —Tora-san. Rest in peace.

That kind of thinking is probably why you keep getting rejected by salons. The salon interviewers are more perceptive than you might think. Can you accept that you were rejected and look for areas where you need to improve? You need to take a calm, honest look at yourself. It seems you’ve gone through life always blaming other people. You can keep blaming others if you want, but that simply means you won’t improve, and your life will stay exactly the same. Once you learn to accept harsh opinions as well, you’ll be able to improve and grow. If respondents were paid by the club or fired for posting opinions that went against it, then of course they’d just say whatever the club wanted. But we write these answers entirely as volunteers, so we have absolutely no reason to curry favor with the club.

Yeah, I suppose so. It’s true that no one here is answering questions to win someone’s approval or get likes. So if you interpret that as “because they have bad personalities,” I won’t deny it lol. Since there’s no writing fee or affiliate income involved either, I think this is a place where people are more likely to share their honest opinions without catering to anyone. And since most of the respondents are club members or employees, every single one of us has properly submitted ID to the club lol. So I think the site is designed in a way that discourages irresponsible answers and keeps things from getting too chaotic. While answering, I suddenly remembered the questioner’s words: “the club’s dog.” I’m not brainwashed, though lolol. It’s me.

I don’t recall ever becoming the club’s lapdog. I’m simply answering as I see fit. Since you’re anonymous, you’re the one who can write whatever you want to say. Those of us answering have to post within certain established rules. I’d like to support women too, but I can’t take every woman’s side.

If someone answered the previous question with something like, “I’m sure you were rejected simply because your preferences didn’t match those of the salon staff. You’re incredibly cute and capable at your job, so how could they reject you? What on earth is wrong with that salon staff member’s eyes?” would the questioner really feel that they had received a kind response? How does that help the questioner in any way? If anything, isn’t that just a curse disguised as encouragement, keeping them from solving the problem? As Taro wrote, I also believe that “when you fail, it’s more constructive to honestly reflect, identify what you can improve, and try again.” The first thing the questioner should understand is that this isn’t a place where respondents simply say what the questioner wants to hear. The papa-katsu anonymous Q&A is a place where respondents answer questions and concerns people have about dating through an arrangement club. Respondents and questioners are complete strangers, so we don’t let personal relationships influence us into saying what the questioner probably wants to hear. If that kind of behavior—like something you’d expect from certain female friends—is what you’re looking for, why not ask friends who are used to comforting each other and licking one another’s wounds? I don’t consider that kindness, and I don’t ask other people for that kind of unconstructive, pointless indulgence. I believe the value—and the kindness—offered here lies in helping people learn about realities they themselves may not be able to see. By the way, I don’t practice sexism by choosing whom to support based on gender. Besides, the salon staff member who handles my account is a woman as well.