Question posted: May 6, 2023, 9:53 p.m. Member ID: 71795
This is my response to the question, “Aren’t you all afraid?”
1. I’m a male member, and I found out that a woman I know very well through work—and who is beautiful—is registered here. I recognized her from her profile and photo. She doesn’t know that I’m a male member. Of course, I won’t tell anyone, and I won’t treat her any differently. Needless to say, I won’t make her an offer either.
2. I heard this from a woman I made an offer to. She was about to marry a man she hadn’t met through the dating club. But when her family held a gathering to introduce him to their relatives, one of the relatives turned out to be a male member. Once people started making a fuss about the fact that she was a member of the dating club, the marriage was called off.
3. About five or six years ago, I saw a news report about the governor of Niigata Prefecture being exposed by the media as a male member of a dating club and losing his position. Men face serious risks, too!
So, what do you all think? I’ll phrase it as a question, for the sake of formality.
P.S.
I’m impressed by the high level of the answers on this message board. There’s very little repetition, and everyone gives smart, precise responses in their own way.
👤Asked byGuest👨GenderMale🎂Not stated👑Member of another dating club
So you’re from another dating club, right?
1. I think your response was perfectly fine.
I’m entering my fifth year, but I’ve never come across anyone I know among the female members...
2. Have that male relative expose the fact that he’s doing papa-katsu himself too, lol.
“Wait, wait—which one of us is at greater risk?”
It’ll become known throughout the family, and you’ll both go down together.
And what if that man is married? Game over, lol.
3. Yes, I learned about dating clubs through the news about that governor, the female announcer who had apparently registered with one in the past, and the “Don Juan of Kishu” case, so I joined, lol.
For dating clubs, it’s good publicity.
If you want to be with young women, you’d lose your job over an affair anyway.
This isn’t limited to papa-katsu, so I understand that level of risk and participate with that in mind.
As far as the governor was concerned, his risk management was terrible.
The allowance was too low, so she leaked it to a magazine, lol.
I thought that, since he had the money, he could have paid a more generous allowance and chosen someone trustworthy...
As for the respondents, everyone just answers however they like, so I’ve never worried about duplicate answers.
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> One of the relatives was a male member.
I don’t really understand this attitude that it’s unacceptable for women but fine for men. Why wasn’t that man condemned as well?
When you think about it,
this can only be made-up.
By that logic, shouldn’t that man also have to remain single for the rest of his life?
These days, the number of people marrying someone they met through a dating site has increased dramatically. I don’t know the exact figures, but apparently one major dating app promotes itself by saying that “about 40% of users get married, while about 20% are considering marriage.”
It also says that a total of 200,000 people have left the app because their relationship progressed beyond dating. So that means more than 200,000 people have become couples—possibly even more, since some may not have deleted their accounts.
Dating sites and dating clubs aren’t the same thing, of course, but if you consider the similarities, it almost seems stranger to make such a fuss simply because someone was registered with one.
At this point, it feels like there are probably fewer people who *don’t* use dating sites. And when you include meeting people through social media, you could simply say that there are more ways to meet someone now.
Maybe there are still people who think, “What? Is it really safe to buy something online?” But that kind of thinking is incredibly outdated.
I also have to wonder what was going through the questioner’s head to go out of their way to write this. But perhaps there’s simply no point arguing with someone who wants to fabricate a fictional story.
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> One of my relatives is a male member.
That male member is an idiot. He could have kept quiet and avoided all this…
The real problem starts after you get married… It’s not as though you can just do whatever you want outside the dating club, lol.
Like I said before, keep it discreet. Women shouldn’t get too greedy either—just take a temporary break once things reach a manageable point. If the man continues supporting her for a little longer, I think it would reduce the woman’s risks too.
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1. I see.
2. I don’t think a story that’s been passed along several times has any real value or freshness as information, so I have nothing to comment on.
3. According to the reports, they used an app rather than a dating club.
That’s based only on information covered by the media, right?
Even if you saw it yourself, it still wouldn’t be firsthand information directly heard from the former governor.
In any case, you’re mixing facts with your own interpretations, so my answer is that I can’t answer your question.
It’s me.
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Are you staff at another dating club, or did you just come here to stir things up?
Apparently, the daughter of the person my current partner used to date was at Universe.
It makes me wonder whether men are safer keeping their faces private. Women tend to be more likely to let things slip…
If a woman is concerned, she can blur her face or choose not to show it. And if something does happen, she is ultimately responsible for it herself.
Please don’t try to provoke people.
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One of my papas is an entrepreneur who keeps a low profile, so he isn’t concerned about media-related risks at all.
Wouldn’t the National Tax Agency be more intimidating than women?
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For a “male member,” listing all the risks and stirring up anxiety would only drive female members away, so I honestly can’t figure out what he’s trying to accomplish—it’s almost comically absurd.
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I can’t believe that relative of yours is making such a fuss about being a member of a dating club. Still, if something that minor was enough to call off the marriage, it’s probably for the best that you didn’t get married.
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