A woman I’ve been seeing for just under a year casually mentioned that she talks in detail about our relationship with a close friend.
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I’ve never heard anything like that from the other women I’ve seen. Since I’ve always thought of this as a relationship that can’t exactly be discussed openly, I was honestly surprised and felt a little uncomfortable.
Do women generally talk about these things openly? If that’s normal, I’ll accept it as part of the arrangement and be more careful about what I share—including personal information—going forward.
As I write this, though, I’m also wondering whether it’s actually a fairly open topic from the woman’s perspective, since clubs do encourage introductions and referrals…
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Even if you’ve been seeing someone for a year, I think it’s better not to share deeply personal information.
There are plenty of men and women who can’t keep things to themselves.
The papa I’m seeing showed other people photos from when we went out together. It’s too late now, but I realized I should make it clear that photos are a no-go.
You can’t turn back time, so just be a little more careful with your next offer.
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We’ve been seeing each other for five years, but we keep it under the radar, so we absolutely never share details of our relationship with anyone else.
We know each other’s personal information inside and out, but I’ve never told anyone, and I don’t think the woman I’m seeing has either. Besides, an old man and a young woman being together is kind of unusual, right? lol
It’s not that she has a boyfriend—or that she’s choosing not to have one, or can’t get one. It’s just that she seems happy to come on our twice-monthly dates.
Well, she receives an allowance, and she seems to take care with her clothes and appearance. Apparently, it also helps stimulate her female hormones.
As for me, although we never go out in public together, we only meet twice a month as part of our arrangement. Still, we have a nice exchange of messages every day. It’s not like we’re seriously in love, but we’re close.
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I’d feel a little uneasy if a woman I’d been seeing for nearly a year hadn’t told anyone about me—not even her close friends...
Because of her job, it’s better for my partner not to make it obvious that she has a boyfriend, so only a very limited number of people around her know I exist. That said, her best friend, mother, and younger sister all know about me.
I suppose people interpret it differently depending on how they view the relationship.
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I regularly go out for meals with my papa (a male supporter) and one of my friends.
The other day, I took him to a lounge in Roppongi where another friend of mine works. I’d mentioned that I wanted to get to know her better, and he said, “Then let’s go to the lounge together.”
We all hung out until morning, and it was honestly so much fun. My papa also told my friend all sorts of things about our relationship, which was pretty interesting.
So, in my case, I introduced them because I wanted my papa and me to become closer. That may be the case with the person you’re seeing too, but if you’re uncomfortable with it, you don’t have to go along with it.
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It’s pretty common to talk about it with close PJ friends in the same papa-katsu community.
We share our success stories, brag about our papas, stories about papas who are people to avoid, and so on.
I’m part of that circle too, and I’ve even gone on a double date with the papa of my monthly arrangement’s close PJ friend lol.
We can enjoy talking openly because we all share the common trait of being Universe members, which gives us peace of mind that the information won’t get out.
If the woman the questioner is talking about is an outsider, I can understand how you feel.
If something is bothering you, I think it would be best to talk it over with her calmly.
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I don’t think there’s enough of a pattern to say what’s typical.
Women who have friends they can talk to about these things probably do, while those who don’t simply keep it to themselves.
I’ve had several women tell me they’ve talked to their friends about their relationship with me. I’ve even gone out and had drinks with one of them, her friend, and her friend’s boyfriend, among other things.
That said, I think telling a friend about it and making it public are two different things.
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