Sorry, I made a mistake earlier.

Are you saying you’re unhappy because the allowance differs between platonic dates and dates that aren’t? I think whether you go to a hotel or not may also depend on how much time and energy the papa has. Everyone should move at their own pace, but why not try sweetly telling him that you’d like more one-on-one time to cuddle and be close?

It’s hard to say. The more appealing the intimate side of the relationship is, and the better your physical compatibility, the more satisfying your platonic dates will be too. If you’re happy and enjoy spending time together, you’ll naturally end up having more platonic dates. I imagine that if you meet three or four times and have an intimate date once, he’d probably be open to it more often if you invited him—and even if you met much more frequently and had more platonic dates, it likely wouldn’t be a problem. He probably likes you that much. For him, platonic dates may feel almost like a way to build the mood and serve as foreplay. The question is whether you feel the same way. From your wording, it seems like your own satisfaction is relatively low, so there may be some mismatch between you in terms of deepening your compatibility. I think improving your own satisfaction will lead to a more fulfilling relationship and better compatibility.

> “On non-platonic days, it’s 1.5 times a month.” How do you even count that as 1.5 times? I was way too curious, so I had to ask, lol. In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), the factors affecting the frequency or ratio aren’t necessarily limited to the appeal of intimacy. It might be the papa’s comfortable pace, or perhaps the result of him being considerate of you. If you’d like to gradually change the way you go on dates, why not talk it over with your papa? It’s me.