I’m not a Universe member, but I wanted to ask a question.
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At 27, is it about time to quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
I’ve mainly been doing papa-katsu through apps since my early twenties, but compared with back then, the number of likes I receive has definitely started to decrease.
I’m getting to an age where I feel it may be time to retire. However, I’m still a graduate student, and I’m not likely to have any income besides part-time work until around age 29 at the earliest, so part of me still wants to continue. I’m conflicted, and I’d really appreciate your honest opinions.
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I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) after turning 40.
I can’t compare it to what it’s like when you’re younger, but even after 40, you can still get offers. I didn’t receive a lot of offers in my first month like some popular women do, but I got about one or two a month.
Now, I’m in a serious, love-based relationship with someone who has treated me very well.
I don’t think age—or being 27, for that matter—matters all that much. I think it’s fine to work on yourself while patiently waiting for offers at your own pace.
You can always quit whenever you want, and I don’t think it’s something you should do just to satisfy your need for validation.
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Men on dating clubs tend to be older than those on apps, so even women who are older may have a better chance of receiving offers than they would on an app.
If you’re okay with older men, I’d definitely recommend signing up for one and seeing how it goes.
A certain level of looks and maintaining your figure are still important, though, so why not register first and see what kind of response you get?
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It’s Fullerene!
Anyway, this feels like a clear case of “come on over to Universe” for now.
Since you’re a graduate student, your life stage is slightly different from that of the average 27-year-old woman. In that sense, relying on your papa for various kinds of support because you’re a student isn’t necessarily the wrong approach.
(Just to be clear, I’m not saying you shouldn’t be active unless you’re a student.)
Rather, I think the bigger issue may be that you’re considering quitting simply because offers have started to decrease. If you can find supporters who stay with you long term, the total number of offers isn’t really that important. The real problem may be that things haven’t lasted.
Also, once you earn your degree, you’ll suddenly be expected to be treated as a professional in your field. Depending on the field, it may be a tough road.
I think it may be best for you to let yourself rely on others until you earn your degree, then make a clean break and become independent.
I don’t mean until you find any full-time job. There are plenty of people who keep sinking deeper and lose the will to resurface because they adopt the mindset of, “I’ll keep receiving support until I land a good job…”
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I’m 10 years older than you, but I’m still registered with SALON.
I haven’t been very active lately, but I recently found something I really want, so I’m thinking of getting back into it once things settle down.
I don’t think age really matters. I didn’t start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) when I was young, and I haven’t had a lot of experience, so I can’t compare it to what it was like back then.
If you want to quit because you’re getting fewer likes, then maybe you should. But if you still want to continue, why not let go of your unnecessary pride and keep going?
I think there are things more important than the number of likes.
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When you feel like quitting, that’s probably the right time to quit.
It’s like smoking or drinking. They’re bad for your health, but some people die young even after quitting, while some heavy smokers live past 100.
That said, isn’t it a little early for the number of “likes” you get to be declining at 27? Your strategy—including how you market yourself—may not be working well.
In that sense, it might be best to step away sooner rather than later. Take care.
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I’m starting to wonder if it might be time for me to graduate from this as well.
The person I’m seeing is also getting close to the age when she could probably graduate, but she shows no sign of wanting to step away!
I mean, how should I put it? I can’t help thinking, “Isn’t it about time you graduated?”
But she seems completely unfazed, happily rushing into restaurants and hotels before anyone else（笑）
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At 27 or 28, regardless of gender, you’re at your peak in terms of energy, physical strength, and experience. That’s not the time to be doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
You don’t have to do papa-katsu if you don’t need to. This is also the time to plant the seeds for earning enough that you won’t need a papa (a male supporter). And if you’re in graduate school, it’s even more of an investment period for your future.
What is it that you really want to do? I think it’s worth considering a path that doesn’t involve papa-katsu. Especially if you’ve ended up constantly searching for a papa, you don’t need to devote all of your twenties to that. You could miss the opportunity to earn your own money and become independent.
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For starters, why don’t you apologize for your disrespect to all the female Universe members aged 27 and over who answer questions here? Then we can talk.
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If you feel that your only appeal is your youth, then maybe it’s time to stop.
Personally, all of the people I’m seeing are in their late twenties or older, so I don’t think age is the issue.
If you’ve been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for years and still worry about the number of likes you get, does that mean people on these apps really change partners that often?
Rather than focusing on the number of likes, I think it would be better to consider why your relationships aren’t lasting.
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If you want to get married, you should focus on marriage-oriented dating.
If you enjoy your work, you’re still young enough to continue papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Until around 35, you can stay active and have multiple supporters. After that, aim for the long term by landing one generous (well-paying) papa.
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