I Don’t Trust People

You say you can’t trust people, but what exactly is it about others that you don’t trust? It seems to me that you don’t actually distrust other people—you simply have unreasonable expectations of them. When you say you can’t trust your papa in an allowance-based arrangement, do you mean he doesn’t give you the agreed-upon allowance? I don’t think pretending to be someone you’re not will make him pay as promised. Someone who doesn’t keep their promises won’t do so regardless of how you act, while someone who does keep them will do so regardless.

That’s not something commonly associated with women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan); it’s more typical of sex workers or AV actresses. Maybe you’ve simply seen too much of the darker side of people. I hope you find someone who can accept you, including the fact that you do papa-katsu. By the way, the more popular a man is with women, the more likely he is to dislike women who put on an act. If the man you’re seeing doesn’t seem very experienced with women, he might fall for the act. Unless you’re mentally strong and able to adapt your approach to each person, it’s probably difficult to make a lot of money through papa-katsu.

You don’t have to trust other people. Trusting yourself is enough. The only people you can truly trust are those you can control. Basically, you lack confidence in yourself, don’t you? You don’t really like yourself either. That’s why you end up thinking this way. When all is said and done, the only person who stays with you from birth to death is yourself, so start by learning to like yourself. Is trusting other people really that important? Aren’t people who want to trust someone despite having no strong sense of self the ones who become easy targets for scams and psychic-sales schemes? Even if the entire world were against you, you wouldn’t be the one at fault. The question is how to set the world straight—and, in the meantime, compromise where necessary. That’s what finding a way to coexist is all about. Above all, put yourself first. Everything else comes after that. Maybe this is a common thing among women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I once met a woman who confessed that she had been like that in the past. She said she wanted to change herself, so she would get up in the morning without putting on any makeup and walk around downtown. Even while we were seeing each other, stress from work would upset her stomach. After intimacy, she’d say, “I’m just going to use the bathroom,” and then come back after a while without getting dressed, continuing our pillow talk. I was happy that she didn’t immediately start getting ready to leave, but once I realized, “She was just taking a dump,” I found it strangely hard to focus on the conversation... Looking back, though, it’s a fond memory（笑） So, to answer your question: “I don’t really care.” Human relationships are like dramas, and once they’ve begun, there’s no absolute right or wrong. As for what gets things started, let’s use every trick in the book to win them over. A good place to start is by fooling the club’s interviewer（笑） Taro

If you can act at a professional, actress-level, you can earn money from it. Personally, I think acting is fine. But if your half-hearted performance gives you away, the man will lose interest, so make sure you commit to it.

> I’m hoping to make a lot of money through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but do men dislike women who have to put on an act? Wait, does that mean you haven’t even started papa-katsu yet? That’s counting your chickens before they hatch. It’s something you can think about after you’ve actually tried it.

Because I believe people are fundamentally good, I have no hesitation about giving a year’s worth of allowance or spending money upfront. Even if it means we might never see each other again after that, I’ve never really had doubts about it. It could all end up being money thrown away, but I’m okay with being deceived. I don’t mind being betrayed either. And yet, so far, none of them has ever simply walked away, and none of those relationships has ended. It isn’t a gamble. It’s simply acting honestly according to my feelings. For the past few years, even though my company is small and we haven’t been recruiting, new graduates have been joining us. They see our employees at work, start as part-time workers, and then choose to join us as new graduates each year. Since we’re a small business, I’ve had experiences that made me realize how difficult it can be to work with employees, and I’ve become painfully aware of my own shortcomings. But our current employees have supported me through all of that, and it seems that their feelings—perhaps the sense that they are valued and treated kindly—have come across through them. These new graduates have come to us wanting to work here without any particular expectations or conditions, without even knowing the job requirements or details, since there weren’t any posted. I never imagined that new graduates would end up joining us, so it has made me realize that something can be conveyed through other people, and through the products and services we provide—not necessarily directly through me. With papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), too, some people seek specific terms, while others seek something different. What each person wants to do varies. The one thing I can say is that what lies beyond the terms can expand infinitely, and it can change for better or worse.

Even though men know adult videos are scripted, they still buy them and get turned on. Why? Because the production companies want to make money, so they put tremendous effort into creating each title. Even if an actress is unattractive without makeup, styling and makeup can make her look cute. And because she wants to become successful, she puts on a convincing imitation of genuine emotion. Popular adult videos are the result of all that effort piling up. Even when men know they’re fantasy, they can still easily hack the male brain. That’s why women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) should be able to earn money through acting too. But just like with successful adult videos, you won’t earn unless you commit wholeheartedly. Whether you’re acting or plain without makeup, my ideal woman is someone who commits to papa-katsu and enjoys it together with me. It’s me.

It’s not that you don’t trust other people—you don’t trust yourself. When you lie all the time, your mindset starts to become that way. Because you lie, you begin to feel as though everyone else is lying too. I don’t trust myself 100% either. Sometimes I end up doing something wrong without realizing it. Still, I always want to be someone I can trust, and I’m quite serious about that. You called it a “fake smile,” but there’s no such thing as a fake or genuine smile. A smile is a smile. Just as every good person has a bad side, every bad person has a good side. If you keep that thought in your heart, you can smile naturally without forcing a strained smile.