I’ve just started looking into what dating clubs are.
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I’m 43, on the curvier side, and have three children. I also have a C-section scar—would someone like me even be considered?
I gained 15 kg after giving birth and have aged a bit too, so I’m currently working hard on losing weight and getting laser cosmetic treatments.
There’s no point in telling you only what you want to hear. The men here are generally quite successful financially, so the reality is that only women who are considered highly desirable receive offers.
You’ll probably be rejected at the interview.
I believe everyone has a stage that suits them.
You might find demand through dating apps or Twitter, so I think it would be more realistic to consider those options.
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I’m Fullerene!
First of all, lose some weight.
Personally, I don’t have anything against women with fuller figures, but being unable to pass the interview and register becomes much more likely.
More importantly, though, I don’t think introducing yourself as “I’m a heavyset 43-year-old with three children” is going to help.
It doesn’t express any of your own appeal.
If you’re in your 40s, you need to have something distinctive for someone to want to make you an offer. Being beautiful is only one possibility.
Try to let go of that defeatist attitude toward yourself and move forward. Whether you’ve had a C-section or not is beside the point.
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At 43, you’re still plenty young. And after living that long, you should have a wealth of knowledge and life experience.
Ayase Nana is even older, but still gets offers from time to time. She isn’t particularly slim or curvy, but she has curves where they count and is toned where she needs to be. She also has better communication skills than the average person.
What about you?
Before applying for an interview, start with stretching and strength training. Working out, getting hungry, and then eating as much as you want is just foolish. Don’t lie to yourself.
Why do you need to get in shape? Appearance is extremely important. Men make offers after looking at your profile photos.
Also, Type A applicants won’t get offers unless they’re both talented and beautiful, so please be prepared for that—or choose Type B or C instead.
You should be able to lose weight in six months. After that, make an interview appointment with Universe.
Good luck. I look forward to meeting you.
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Please forgive me for giving such a blunt answer.
Since you have three children, I’ll assume you’re married. I don’t think there are many offers for women whose married status is known. Many male members probably join a dating club to reduce their risks as much as possible, so I doubt they would make offers to someone they perceive as carrying even greater risks.
As for dieting and beauty treatments, it’s wonderful that you’re making the effort, and I think you should keep it up.
I imagine that most women who decide to register with a dating club are already doing those things as a matter of course. So, among all the women who have registered after making the same kind of effort you’re making, I think the important question is: What do you have to offer?
That said, I don’t have anything particularly special about me either, and I’m older than many women in the dating-club scene, so I wasn’t sure I’d even be accepted. I went to my SALON interview thinking that if I couldn’t register, I’d simply give up.
The truth is, you never know until you try, so going to an interview might be worth considering. I hope it brings you some kind of change, even if only emotionally.
Good luck!!
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Everyone has different preferences, and with only the information that she’s a plus-size 43-year-old with three children and C-section scars, I can’t say for certain—but I think it would be extremely difficult.
I don’t think the C-section scars, number of children, childbirth experience, or age would necessarily be a problem on their own.
However, men pay the club a setup fee for the opportunity to meet women, pay transportation costs to meet them, and then provide an allowance as part of the relationship. Consider how many men would be willing to spend that kind of money to date you.
To be even more blunt, even if you lose weight or undergo laser treatments and become a little more polished, I don’t think that alone would be enough. Unless you have some kind of advantage over other women, you’ll still have no choice but to hope you happen to fall right into a man’s ideal type.
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Given the nature of dating clubs, there’s no denying that a woman’s looks have a direct impact on how easily she can find arrangements.
Personally, I think quite a few men don’t mind a C-section scar. I certainly don’t.
However, if you’re on the heavier side and look older than your age, things will be extremely difficult, and you should probably expect to receive little to no interest. I’d recommend focusing on losing weight and getting laser treatments first, then starting your activities.
Incidentally, I recently had medical laser treatment to even out my facial skin tone. Men tend to be judged more on their financial strength, but I still believe men shouldn’t neglect making an effort to improve their appearance.
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