Could you tell me how to attract people?
Here’s my current situation:
I go without makeup because I think it’s better for my skin. My friends are puzzled about why I don’t wear makeup, and they tell me I should—“It’s such a waste not to.”
Do men generally find women cuter when they wear foundation and full eye makeup?
When I made an effort to wear skirts, men were superficially kinder to me. But when I go makeup-free and wear sneakers, no one even approaches me.
The way people treat me really does change just because I’m not wearing makeup. Am I imagining it?
From a man’s perspective:
If you can go without makeup and still be told you’re pretty or cute, or if men approach you and you’re popular even without makeup, that’s great. But if wearing makeup makes you more popular and gets you approached more, then from a man’s point of view, you’ll probably look cuter and more beautiful with makeup than without it.
As for clothing, you need to choose depending on the situation—sometimes a skirt is better, while other times sneakers are perfectly fine.
If you want to be popular, you have to adapt to the other person’s preferences so they’ll like you. Otherwise, you probably won’t be popular.
“I’m trying to look masculine, so I let my beard and eyebrows grow wild. I always wear shorts because I want to show off my leg muscles. Why am I not popular?”
What do you think? That’s a no, right?
From a woman’s perspective, wouldn’t you think, “This guy really doesn’t get it,” if he didn’t pay attention to looking clean and well-groomed?
The male example is a little extreme, but it’s close to what the questioner is thinking.
I think it would be best if you also tried to think from a man’s perspective and consider how to make yourself appealing to him.
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Even in your 20s, you can look polished with just the basics: sunscreen with primer and color-correcting coverage, drawn-in eyebrows, and a little powder. At the very least, do that.
Going to work without any makeup at all feels a little questionable in terms of etiquette.
Even in winter, exposure to UV rays can lead to wrinkles and dark spots later on.
Things have changed a lot since long ago, so please keep up with modern standards.
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This is Fullerene!
> Do men generally find women with foundation and full eye makeup cuter?
In general, women who look naturally made up tend to be more popular than those wearing full-on makeup.
> It really is different just because I don’t wear makeup.
Of course it is.
There’s a theory that human lips are red, unlike a gorilla’s, because they imitate engorged genitals (look it up).
If there were one woman wearing lipstick and sending out a “ready to go” signal, and another who wasn’t, it would be obvious which one a man should approach.
> When I made an effort to wear skirts, men were superficially kind to me, but when I go bare-faced and wear sneakers, nobody even hits on me.
So it’s understandable if the questioner’s attitude comes across as arrogant—as if to say:
“Makeup or no makeup should be negligible in the presence of my charm, so hurry up and approach me already!”
By the way, I like women without makeup, lol.
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I’d say this is a ①.
Why? Because it’s a “question” that has absolutely nothing to do with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Maybe they’re just having fun seeing how many respondents they can bait with an unrelated question.
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Long, long ago, when I was in college, I loved reading a fashion magazine called Vingt-et-un.
The makeup pages featured techniques for creating a “bare-skin look”—which actually involved quite a bit of effort and skill.
I think many men like natural makeup on beautifully perfected, skin-like-looking skin, even if they don’t like heavy makeup that completely changes someone’s face.
It’s totally different from wearing no makeup.
If you feel that wearing a skirt is too much effort and prefer going makeup-free or wearing sneakers, that’s perfectly fine too. I’m sure there are men who like that look as well.
However, you probably won’t find many of them in the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) scene.
Marika
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I think young women around twenty look better with light makeup than with a full face.
As they get older, their makeup gradually becomes heavier and heavier, eventually turning into flashy, over-the-top makeup（笑）
In particular, that over-the-top makeup older women seem to use as the final touch never looks good to me. I wish they’d stop.
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Compared to a girl with flawless makeup and a skirt, and one wearing no makeup and sneakers, of course the former is going to be more popular…
Going makeup-free for the sake of your skin is important too, but isn’t it hard to balance that with being attractive to men?
Men often say, “You’re cuter without makeup,” but I think that’s only because they already found you cute and fell for you, so that’s how they see you.
The only women who can make someone fall for them without makeup are those who are naturally stunning, with perfectly balanced features.
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