I’m particularly attracted to women wearing miniskirts, pencil skirts, and similar outfits that show the lines of their legs or figure. Compared with women wearing looser skirts, women dressed that way look one or two levels prettier or cuter to me (this is purely a personal preference, so I hope you’ll understand).
When making an offer after seeing photos of a woman in that kind of outfit, is it acceptable to specify, “Please wear something like what you were wearing in the photo”? For the female respondents and staff members here, have you ever been asked to specify an outfit in that way?
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I don’t have any preferences at all… I actually find it more enjoyable when they wear whatever they like, since I can learn more about them that way.
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②, I’d say.
At first glance, it looks like a serious question, but the fact that he asks, “Do you ever specify what she should wear?” shows that he isn’t really struggling with what he should do. He simply wants to know what the respondents—or other people—are doing. I suppose it’s basically a survey.
There were men who specified miniskirts, though (and judging from Kazu’s answer, apparently there still are), so I passed that request on to the women.
I thought the women were really doing their best by putting up with it and dressing accordingly. They seemed very kind.
If you think about it normally, it’s the sort of request where you can’t blame someone for saying, “I think I’ll pass.”
You might ask, “Then why tell them about it?”
Well, the men specifically asked me to pass the requests along, and I figured each woman could decide for herself whether to decline. So I thought it was better to tell them—and I still do. As long as the request isn’t extremely strange, I think the basic policy should be to pass it on when a man makes one. The women can always say no.
That said, I was surprised when one man asked me to tell a woman to wear a thong, but I passed that along too.
The current staff might not tell them, but at the time I did, thinking, “I see—that’s one strategy.”
People really do come up with all kinds of ideas.
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Regardless of your preferences, I don’t think it’s a good idea to specify what someone should wear for a first meeting if you’re hoping to continue seeing each other.
It’s creepy.
If your goal is simply to meet lots of different women and you know you’ll only see her once anyway, then asking her to wear something you like might be fine.
Saying things like:
“Since it’s a hotel restaurant, please wear something appropriate.”
or
“We’re going to a yakiniku restaurant, so please wear something that won’t be a problem if it smells like barbecue.”
wouldn’t feel strange. (Though I do question choosing that kind of restaurant for a first meeting in the first place...)
But specifying someone’s outfit purely because of your personal preferences just seems like you’re deliberately making her dislike you.
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If she’s wearing her own clothes in the photos, those are probably her date outfits, so there’s a good chance she’ll wear them on your dates without you having to say anything.
Girls who wear dresses or more covered-up casual clothes in their photos will probably dress that way normally too.
If the photos show her in tight clothes or a miniskirt, you don’t need to say anything.
If that’s just how she dresses, even seeing her casually walking around town, stopping by a convenience store, or sitting in the passenger seat is enough to drive you wild.
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Since that would be a bit much for the first meeting, I think it would be fine to hold back at first and, once you’ve gotten to know each other better, ask her to come wearing the outfit shown in her profile.
A little brag, lol: For my birthday, I had a woman buy the kind of lingerie I like—we looked at it together online beforehand—and added the cost to her allowance, then had her wear it on our date during my birthday month.
It was amazing to have my fantasy come true: a sheer bra and a string thong, lol.
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If you ask for it in that way, to put it bluntly, you increase the risk of coming across as “a little creepy.”
So why not wait until you’ve met two or three times, then only ask women you genuinely want to get closer to?
I often try to accommodate the hobbies of the papas I’m close with, too. When you have a close relationship, it doesn’t feel like a burden, so I think it’s best to focus on building rapport first.
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“Severity” scale
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① Provoking the respondent because they want attention, ② wanting to make small talk because they’re bored despite having no ill intent, ③ wanting a quick answer because researching it themselves or contacting the branch office is a hassle, ④ a simple question, ⑤ genuinely troubled and seriously looking for advice
(the severity increases from ① to ⑤)
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This is just barely a ⑤.
It’s a preference, right? I understand that part.
I don’t think it’s quite the same as Date-san’s “You’ll understand once I get naked, right? (lol).” Maybe he gets turned on not by nudity itself, but by seeing her wearing a mini skirt or tight skirt—and walking around town dressed that way.
That said, I don’t mind someone being open about their preferences from the start, but they shouldn’t impose them. This is a matching service, after all.
“Please come wearing a mini skirt or tight skirt like the ones in your photos” is not okay.
But saying, “You look great in the mini skirts and tight skirts you wear in your photos, and I was attracted to that, so if possible, I’d be happy if you wore something like that on our date. Of course, you may have your own preferences, so I’m not asking you to force yourself—it’s simply my preference,” would be fine.
You could also send the message through the staff for a regular date, but I think it’s better to work out the details through a letter date.
By the way, I’ve recently become really slow at typing on my phone, so I usually go from a reverse offer to a letter date, then ask, “Can you talk on the phone now?” and discuss everything verbally. It’s very convenient.
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