I’ve been doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for about a year now. It’s gone much better than I expected, and I’ve managed to save quite a lot, but I often get asked by my papas (male supporters) why I need the money, and I’m not sure how to answer.
The truth is, I’m not struggling financially at all. I use the money for savings, stocks, and things like that.
I also have a relatively well-paying day job, and my family is fairly wealthy. I’m not particularly close with them and don’t want to rely on them, though.
If I say I’m saving for the future, I feel like they won’t be as happy to pay me. So I’ve been making excuses like saying I need tuition money or that one of my parents is sick and I have to support them. But a lot of papas look down on you if they think you’re poor. Is there a more convincing reason I could give?
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If you don’t like being looked down on, not every papa will treat you that way. So maybe, only with the papas who look down on you, try saying, “I do a lot of papa-katsu and invest in stocks, and things are going well for me.”
Isn’t that the truth?
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The thing that makes me happiest is when they say, “I want to be rich like you. I want to save more.”
They may see right through silly lies anyway. If we’re enjoying the date, any reason is fine. Let’s be honest with each other.
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On the “severity” scale:
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① You’re provoking people because you want the respondents’ attention; ② You don’t mean any harm—you’re just bored and want to chat; ③ You can’t be bothered to look it up yourself or contact the branch, so you want a quick answer; ④ It’s just a simple question; ⑤ You’re genuinely struggling and seriously looking for advice.
(The severity increases from ① to ⑤.)
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I’d say this falls under ③.
The reason is that if you search online, you’ll find countless example responses for situations like that.
For example, try searching for: “What’s the right way to answer on an app if I’m asked my purpose or reason for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?”
P.S.
Here’s something you won’t find on those roundup sites:
Lies start to unravel when a relationship continues over the long term.
They may work if it’s just a one-time encounter, though.
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Everyone has their own preferences and way of thinking, so I don’t think there’s one perfect reason that works for everyone.
You’re asking this because you’re assuming that an allowance is something you receive to cover necessary expenses.
I see an allowance as a lubricant for the relationship, so I don’t really care what it’s used for—even if it isn’t something necessary. If anything, I actually prefer it when it isn’t needed, since that makes things feel less burdensome. I think people who are more financially independent are more attractive.
Adding this after reading Mac’s answer:
My gut feeling was also③.
One more thing:
I can usually tell when someone is lying. In my case, keeping up with lies is a hassle, and it makes dating itself feel like a chore, so things don’t continue.
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