I don’t think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is wrong.

I’m not trying to否定 anyone’s way of thinking. I think it would be painful to keep doing something while否定ing what you’re doing yourself, so if it feels wrong, it may be better to stop. papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t illegal, and it’s also true that some women enjoy doing it… Life probably feels more enjoyable if you choose to see it in a positive light, though.

The most important thing is knowing that you’re crazy. (For women, would “enjoying a whole different world” be the better way to put it…?) Whether it’s sports or business, the people who get so absorbed that they look “crazy” to outsiders are the ones who come out on top. I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) can make you feel happy precisely when you’re crazy about it. Being halfhearted or indecisive is the worst. I’m a woman-obsessed “Paper Airplane,” so I’m an eccentric who feels incredibly happy spending time with my beloved wife, my girlfriend, and the women I meet through the club.

Either live an ordinary life and end up poor, or do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). There’s no doubt that papa-katsu is the right choice. Adventurer Merchant, I also have nightmares about my married days. I wake up to the sight of my ex-wife glaring at me, then think to myself that morning how glad I am to be divorced.

I don’t think you need to worry about how it looks “socially.” If anything, the only question you should be asking yourself is, “Could this violate criminal law?” Earning money through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and pursuing marriage with a wealthy man you don’t even like aren’t all that different, in my opinion. Society may see it as “acceptable as long as you’re married,” but... I don’t think it’s good to spend your days suppressing your feelings and forcing yourself to endure one thing after another. If you’re satisfied with your choices and enjoying your life, then even if society considers it strange, I think you should go ahead without hesitation. Oh, and one last thing. I’m divorced, and there are scenes from my marriage that still make me feel sick with anguish whenever I remember them. They aren’t the scenes where we were arguing and yelling at each other. They’re scenes of us sitting around the dinner table as a happy family, getting along normally. I had a talented homemaker wife, we bought a condo, and our finances were stable. From the outside, it probably looked like “such a happy marriage”—the kind of life people would envy. But that single scene was hell for me, to the point where it made me feel nauseous... If you worry too much about what society thinks, you may end up like I did, so please be careful.

Probably #4? Let’s stop lumping everything together as “papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).” Schools probably won’t teach you this, but there are two basic principles for getting through life: 1) Don’t make other people unhappy. 2) Live the way you want to. As long as you stick to those, whether you do papa-katsu or work a regular office job, it’s up to you. If you do papa-katsu and, for example, destroy the man’s family, that’s not okay because it causes trouble for his wife and children. But if you’re careful not to make anyone unhappy, there’s no problem. I’m sure some men involved in papa-katsu aren’t decent people either—some deceive others or run businesses that are practically scams. As human beings, they’re far worse than women working in the adult entertainment industry. That said, when it comes to money, society often takes the attitude that whoever makes the most wins. No matter how badly the money was earned, having a large enough amount can earn you social recognition. Many people would frown on papa-katsu if you openly talked about it. But think about it carefully. Isn’t that all just other people’s opinions? It’s not your own assessment of yourself. You shouldn’t cause trouble for others, but don’t worry about how they judge you. What matters is how you yourself evaluate yourself. You’ve heard the term “self-esteem,” right? People often misunderstand it, but it doesn’t mean other people’s opinions of you. It means whether you can accept yourself. It’s not your mother’s approval or your teacher’s approval. Take that to heart and remember it. Put another way, it’s called “pride.” Live with pride in yourself. Don’t compromise on that. That’s why you need the two principles I mentioned above. As long as you follow those two principles, whether you do papa-katsu, work in the adult entertainment industry, or do anything else, it’s okay. At least I’ll give you an approval stamp saying, “You’re doing great—keep it up!”

②, I’d say. Personally, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with any of them. Socially speaking, I wouldn’t go so far as to call them crazy either. At most, it’s probably better not to openly talk about them. Worrying about how something looks socially is, I think, a form of conformity—the pressure to be the same as everyone else. Universe Club has around 7,000 female members, and apparently about 70,000 women have registered there in total. I agree that they’re a minority, but I wouldn’t go so far as to call them crazy.