Even though he seemed to like me, he offered 30,000 yen, so I turned him down. Do men who think they can get into an adult relationship for 30,000 yen really have that much confidence?

They may simply be people who don’t have much money and want sex at that price. If they keep getting turned down here, they’ll try dating apps or street solicitation—and if that still doesn’t work, they may turn to sex work. Alternatively, papas are willing to pay a high introduction fee and make that offer knowing the arrangement might fall through. So, unfortunately, it’s possible that the person asking is being viewed as being worth only that level. Judging from the way you write, what’s your personality like…? If you keep receiving the same offer, it may be best to accept it as reality and work on yourself.

Probably number 2. I met mine through an app, so I didn’t know any better and initially offered 3. We’ve been together for four years now, and I’ve raised the amount since then. If he’s a new male member, you might make good money by winning him over and nurturing the relationship. Of course, if he’s an arrogant, bad-breath-boasting old guy who wants a second round, you can just turn him down.

Maybe he’s confident in himself, or maybe he’s short on money and wants someone to see him for as little as possible. Still, I think the latter is more common. But if most women are willing to accept 50,000 yen or less, what makes someone ask for 80,000 yen? Does he really have that much confidence in himself? Women would get angry if you told them to stop because they’re being presumptuous and shameless. It’s the same thing, so I think you should stop asking questions like this.

I often offer 4. Assuming 5 is the average, I prefer women who still genuinely want to see me even if the amount is below that. So if we click over dinner and the conversation flows, I’ll float that option to gauge her feelings. Of course, I phrase it politely, and sometimes we end up settling on 5 or even more. I’ve also met a woman who offered 3 herself. I wondered why, but it felt like opening Pandora’s box, so I didn’t dare ask（笑）. Somehow, it lasted four years. Once things had gone on that long, her price competitiveness was unbeatable, so she was always on the roster no matter what. She was practically a household spirit（笑） Regardless of the going rate—or what’s generally considered average—if the two people agree on the terms, then whatever amount they settle on is the right one. If they can’t agree, it simply means the terms didn’t match. Insulting someone just because they offered terms that don’t suit your preferences is missing the point. Conversely, if a woman I find unattractive said she wanted 7, I might think, “Tch,” but I’d never say it to her. She just isn’t my type; another man might find her attractive and be perfectly happy with 7. It’s simply a matter of not being a match for me. Also, I’m not a fan of people who obsess over the going rate or the average. If you have your own preferred terms, it’s better to state them plainly. Why care what someone you don’t match with thinks? You’re not compatible anyway, and you won’t be seeing each other again. To be honest, even when I’ve agreed to terms above what I wanted, not a single arrangement has lasted more than six months. The women I see dozens of times over the long term are the ones whose terms match mine. So if the terms don’t work for you, it’s more rational to pass and approach someone else. If the difference is just 1, meeting 20 times means a difference of 20. With that money, how many people could you make offers to? I didn’t really understand this at first, but after meeting many women, I was able to calculate my own success rate, and the economic logic was proven by actual data. That’s when it became a firm conviction. Women are generally limited to waiting for offers, so they can’t really build up this kind of data and develop a strategy around it. Maybe that’s why people who obsess over the going rate are so common. Men can reveal statistical facts by making repeated offers. And people who have money are, by nature, those who have succeeded at figuring out how to achieve their goals, so I think they can see how to win the game fairly quickly. After that, it’s simply a matter of whether they loudly announce it or don’t feel the need to share it with others. I’d say the latter probably accounts for more than 90%. So questions like these about the going rate will keep popping up forever, but I also believe the world will never change to meet what the person asking hopes for. I’m sorry（笑） Taro

Since Kazu has been making good use of this, I’m reposting the following: ＝＝＝＝＝ “Severity” scale ① Provoking people because you want the respondents’ attention ② Not malicious, but bored and looking to chat ③ Too lazy to look it up yourself or contact the branch, so you want a quick answer ④ An innocent question ⑤ You’re genuinely troubled and seriously looking for advice (Severity increases from ① to ⑤.) ＝＝＝＝＝ I don’t get the impression you’re trying to provoke anyone, so I’d say you’re at ②. So I’ll humor you and chat—but remember this: getting indignant because the allowance offered was too low only exposes you to ridicule as a woman who’s publicly admitting that she was personally appraised that way.

It has a question mark, but just like “Do you think you’re ○○?” isn’t really a question, it’s merely a lead-in to what comes afterward. To begin with, I don’t think they were asking for the other person’s opinion at all. So, I wouldn’t call it a question. Was this supposed to be entertainment? Anyway, it seems like you can just give some throwaway response, so maybe I should have said something like: “That sounds rough. I’m sure there are good men out there. I hope you meet a nice person next time.” Or: “It would only be acceptable if he were a handsome older guy or incredibly entertaining to talk to. Otherwise, people would just see him as pushy and shameless, so of course I’d think he shouldn’t say things that make him look uncool.” Something along those lines, I guess.

Tell her directly or ask her yourself. Why should a complete stranger know or care? ①