What goes through someone’s mind when they try to record intimate videos?

There are different styles when it comes to making intimate videos. I’m more of the artistic type, so I want to film them in a way that looks polished and cute. Plus, I enjoy editing videos, which is why I want to make them in the first place. By the way, I don’t use a smartphone—I use a GoPro. It’s actually pretty difficult to be intimate while filming at the same time.

Since amateur sex videos and groping are trends that originated in adult videos, men in their 40s and 50s may see them as a kind of fetish. You can tell from the popularity of role-play clubs, where groping scenarios and videos that don’t show the woman’s face are offered as options. They want to record it for their own use and watch it later. That man is relatively decent in that he’s trying to get her consent. Doing it without consent is voyeurism. If it isn’t voyeurism, then it’s somewhat different from doing it to post the footage on sites like FC2 and make money from it. Incidentally, I once took nude photos of my ex-wife when she was younger, with her consent, but I’ve never recorded an intimate video.

Even if you understand his psychology or reasons, if the questioner is uncomfortable with it, then that should be the end of the matter. Conversely, even if you don’t know his psychology or reasons, if you’re the kind of person who would want to accommodate him because he wants to do it, then you would do so. However, anyone who tries to film you without getting your consent is out of the question. I think you should end things with him while you still can. There’s a risk that he may eventually start secretly filming you. P.S. To add to this, the part about “him starting to fiddle with his phone while you were in the missionary position” suggests that he was trying to film you without your consent. So rather than simply having a hobby of filming, I think he may actually be into secretly filming people. People who genuinely enjoy filming don’t do things like that. I think there’s a fundamental difference between liking filming and liking secretly filming someone. P.S. 2: > He started using his phone while you were in the missionary position, but he stopped when you told him to, right? We don’t know exactly what happened, but when I think about what he might do next, I can imagine him thinking, “She’ll refuse if I ask, so I’ll try to film her without getting caught.” Men who don’t get turned down can casually ask for a woman’s permission beforehand. In the first place, they probably haven’t had much experience being rejected, because they know how to approach things properly. But people who get rejected are unable to think things through that way. They’re probably the kind of men who have been—or continue to be—turned down by many women. If they still want to film despite being refused, they may end up going down the path of secretly filming. So I think even someone who didn’t originally have a particular interest in secretly filming people may end up setting up a hidden camera because he doesn’t know how to obtain a woman’s consent. > Secretly filming someone means the kind of thing where you film under a high school girl’s skirt on a train, right? In this case, I’m not talking about that kind of thing. I mean someone who wants to film himself with a woman, but can’t get her consent, and may therefore turn to secretly filming her. Of course, some people may instead study how to approach women and obtain consent before filming. But people who can’t get consent often have no idea why they can’t, and end up wondering, “How are people able to film, then?” As Mac-san wrote, getting a woman’s consent is easy. Even getting consent to take fully nude photos of a woman at a location about a ten-minute walk from the station isn’t particularly difficult. But people who can’t do it apparently have no idea how to obtain consent. This is a bit of an aside and unrelated to the topic, but even at Universe, a fair number of men have been permanently banned for secretly filming women. I may have mentioned this before, but there was a man who placed a battery-powered hidden camera near the pillow on the bed. When the woman discovered it, he apparently apologized to her, but he insisted to the club that he had only been using it as a portable charger and hadn’t secretly filmed anything. I can’t help wondering what kind of excuse it is to say you weren’t secretly filming when you deliberately left a portable charger with a hidden-camera function there. Why would you need a portable charger with a hidden-camera function just to use it as a charger? And he even took it out of his bag and left it somewhere visible. He could simply have asked her to let him film them together, so none of that should have been necessary. I suspect he must have been rejected in the past. I also believe filming and secretly filming are two different things, but I wonder whether men who can’t get a woman’s consent to film may end up turning to secretly filming. Otherwise, I can’t understand why men’s hidden recording devices keep being found inside love hotels. They aren’t targeting shots under skirts or women showering—they’re targeting the bed.

Scary. You need to break things off right away. I don’t understand the mindset of people who commit crimes. Can someone explain why they do it? ↓ Answer I have no idea lol Whether they’re a papa (a male supporter), boyfriend, or fuck buddy, people who secretly film others will do it regardless, I guess. Maybe they make money from it online, or enjoy watching it themselves. I’d never do anything like that, so those are the only reasons I can think of.

That’s just armchair psychology—you’ve been watching too much TV. Why not ask him directly? It’s number ②. Personally, I think it’s a mix of feelings like wanting to take photos of delicious-looking food even though you’re not going to post them on Instagram or look back at them later, wanting to take pictures when visiting a World Heritage site, feeling happy when someone accepts something that isn’t very common, wanting to have sex with a woman you’re attracted to even though you could masturbate for free and cum at your own pace, and wanting to enjoy it more since you’re having sex anyway. P.S. Pulling out your smartphone right in front of your partner during the act isn’t a love of voyeuristic filming—it just makes you a pushy guy. Please don’t lump consensual sex videos together with secretly filming someone.

There’s no reason behind a sexual preference. If you ask, “What’s the psychology behind it?” the only answer I can give is, “Because it turns me on.” Even if you don’t understand the psychology of LGBT people, you should still be able to accept diversity. This is more or less the same kind of thing. One thing I can say for certain is that if the person asking absolutely can’t tolerate her boyfriend wanting to make a sex video, he’ll start looking for a woman who will let him. Even if he loves the person asking. That’s how deep-rooted sexual preferences can be. P.S. This bothered me enough that I have to say one thing: filming and secretly filming someone are completely different at their core. I film, but I would never secretly record anyone, and it doesn’t turn me on either. The reason is that by filming, I’m exercising control over the person in front of me. Think of it as using a camera—or smartphone—instead of rope to tie them up. Does that make sense? With secretly filmed footage, you can’t enjoy watching the other person’s embarrassment and agitation gradually turn into the pleasure of being watched—or rather, of being seen. It’s a completely different fetish from secretly filming someone. Please understand that much. P.S. 2 > I think this person may be interested in secretly filming women rather than filming itself. No, I mean, when he started using his phone during missionary and she told him to stop, he stopped, right? Her boyfriend, I mean. I’m certain he isn’t into secretly filming women. He may just be a little clumsy about how he goes about it. He should get the woman thoroughly aroused—ideally make her climax once or twice—and, when she’s panting, say, “I’m going to film this. If you don’t want your face in it, make sure you cover it with both hands.” If she covers her face as instructed, that’s half-consent. By “half,” I mean that afterward he should say, “This is what I filmed earlier. I enjoy collecting videos like this—would it be okay if I kept it as a memento? I promise I’ll never upload it online,” and then let her watch the footage. If she says, “Yeah, that’s fine,” then consent has been established. That’s how I would handle it. By the way, I went to my usual mixed-gender hot spring at lunchtime today. There were about ten other customers, so after chatting for a while, I said, “I’d like to film this girl for a bit, so could you come over here? [Name], stand up, cover your face with both hands, and face this way. Raise both arms so your breasts are clearly visible. Spread your legs a little and stick your hips out so your pussy is more visible.” Then I filmed her completely naked. When it was over, she came over and hugged me, so I patted her on the head and praised her. It felt like feeding a sea lion after it had finished performing a trick. People who can’t understand this probably can’t do it, but that’s the kind of play it is. I get excited, my eyes light up, and I’m visibly delighted—and seeing that makes her feel happy too. At the same time, she’s still a woman, so little by little she experiences the pleasure of being seen—that is, being the center of attention. Secretly filming someone is more like recording up a high school girl’s skirt on a train, right? I can understand it as a fetish, but it’s almost the exact opposite of mine.