My family found out, and things have become really uncomfortable and painful at home. It seems my mother told them.
Since then, my father brings up the fact that I do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) practically every time I see him. It makes me uncomfortable, and I want him to stop.
Have any of you had your family find out? If so, I’d appreciate any advice on how to deal with it.
I didn’t realize that could be an issue too...
I’ve been introduced to her parents as her boyfriend, so it’s not really a matter of them finding out... They know about us and approve.
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It must be really difficult now that they’ve found out. I can understand how you feel.
I think it would be best to become independent from your parents as soon as possible.
I recommend starting to live on your own with a day job plus papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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Once you start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you’re independent from your parents in a sense, so you don’t need to worry about it—and I don’t think your parents have any right to interfere.
If they find out, the parents are often partly responsible for the situation in the first place. A father like that would probably behave in a creepy way, and you may want to avoid him normally anyway, so I think it’s fine to cut off contact completely without worrying about it. If he had been providing enough support, there would have been no need to do papa-katsu for the money.
The one who should feel ashamed is the father.
Women doing papa-katsu and working hard to support themselves are far more admirable than their parents.
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If your mother “told your father,” the first question is how she found out in the first place. Understanding the cause is essential to figuring out what to do.
Also, as Mac-san pointed out in his answer, in your case it’s already been found out, so there’s probably nothing you can do to prevent it now.
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My papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) hasn’t been discovered by my parents, but since the older business owners I’ve dated privately have all been like papas, they may think I’m just looking to marry into money (lol).
It’s your life, so I think it’s fine to ignore other people’s opinions and not worry about what they say. If they’re being too harsh, just distance yourself from them.
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