When papas talk about girls they’ve met or dated in the past, it can be scary when they’re in the entertainment industry because you realize, “Oh, she’s doing this too.”

Probably not. If you work in the entertainment industry, you should end things with that papa and find one who’s considerate enough to keep quiet. And this isn’t limited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Whether it’s true or not, there are people who brag about having been with celebrities, right?

Let me start with the basic premise: that man was being thoughtless by telling others, and he really shouldn’t have done that. Both men and women at the club should have been told this. I was, and so was my papa (a male supporter), and I believe we even signed confidentiality agreements. That said, even if you warn people—and the club already does—it ultimately comes down to the individuals’ morals. Outsiders can’t really tell them how to behave. This may sound harsh, but people in highly public-facing professions often date a papa (a male supporter) precisely because of their profession. Their occupation may be adding to their value in the relationship. Famous entertainers and models, especially those at the top of their field, are probably more likely either not to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or to choose someone whose identity will absolutely never be exposed—often someone equally prominent. Even among underground idols, there are people who work hard to find other jobs and continue their activities without doing papa-katsu, because it would tarnish their image as an idol. If someone is using their profession to their advantage in papa-katsu, there is a high possibility that information will spread. If that could become their greatest weakness, I think sensible people would choose not to do papa-katsu in the first place. That is simply one of the advantages and disadvantages of having a highly public-facing profession. If they get exposed, I believe it can be considered a form of bringing it upon themselves: - Being someone who can only date that kind of papa (male supporter) - Being unable to earn money through a legitimate profession that they wouldn’t mind becoming public knowledge Advantages naturally come with disadvantages. If you can’t manage those risks yourself, then perhaps that’s the end of the matter. That’s reality. Rather than expecting something from others, shouldn’t you take action yourself and try to change the other person’s behavior—or assess how your own actions may affect your future risks, instead of focusing only on the immediate benefits? That’s just my personal opinion.

The Japanese was a little unclear, but basically, you want the club staff to warn him not to talk to others about registered members, right? I think it’s reasonable to say something, since making comments that could identify someone is pretty unethical. Maybe something like: “You wouldn’t want other people telling everyone about you, either, would you?” “I want to keep this private too.” If you can’t say it directly, I think it would be best to report the man to the club and have the staff warn him.

These days, people don’t really pay attention to strangers like that. Unless you’re particularly famous, no one like that would register anyway… and there’s no need to register, either…

I’m not quite sure what you mean by “the club disclosing information about other registered members”... I believe they told us that “members are prohibited from disclosing information about other registered members.” I heard that, and you did too, didn’t you? If you interpret “information about other registered members” strictly, then this very question of yours is also an act of posting information about another registered member online—in other words, disclosing it publicly. Ultimately, everything comes down to the degree and circumstances.