About my papa (a male supporter) who keeps inviting me on overseas trips.

Thank you for your question! If you really don’t want to go, it might be easier to be honest and say, “I don’t want to go because of this reason...” I’m sure your papa (a male supporter) invited you because he thought you would be happy, so to avoid dismissing his kind intentions, you could say something like, “Since I can’t travel abroad, I’d love to make the most of our dates here in Japan♡” Showing that you understand his feelings may help keep him from getting hurt. Yuki Higashino Universe Club Staff

> Being abroad, not understanding the language, and potentially being made to eat or drink something strange—in short, traveling in a foreign country with a papa (a male supporter) I don’t fully trust sounds far too scary, so I want to decline. In the first place, given your current situation, traveling overseas isn’t really an option. To avoid giving him false hope, you should clearly say, “I don’t want to go!” Even if that ends the relationship, there’s not much you can do about it. Unless both people build a solid foundation of trust, the relationship will just become unpleasant, with both sides growing suspicious of each other. I don’t know how long you’ve been seeing each other, but I think it would be better to get to know each other a little more before considering something like that.

You’ve never done papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but you have a papa? Is he your legal father? Putting that aside, I wouldn’t date a papa I couldn’t trust in the first place, so I’ve never been in that situation. But if I were, I think I’d respond something like this: “Taiwan and China are still keeping each other in check, and just the other day there were reports that President Xi had instructed the military to be ready for an invasion of Taiwan. I’m a little scared to go to Taiwan right now because you never know what might happen… And if I got sick to my stomach, it would ruin our date… teehee. I don’t want my parents to find out about my papa-katsu either, and I try to avoid risks as much as possible. I only meet my papa because I think he’s worth taking some risks to see. So I’m scared of taking on any more risk than I already do. Rather than risk not being able to see you again, I’d much rather spend more time together here in Japan.” That should get across that you’re extremely sensitive when it comes to avoiding risks. Anyway, I think it’s better not to date a papa you can’t trust. Just my opinion.

Do you mean they were “dodging the question” rather than “hinting at it”? Also, how can you be inexperienced with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) if you have a papa (a male supporter) inviting you on overseas trips? If you don’t want to travel abroad, you could say that you’re worried about traveling overseas because of COVID, or that you’d rather not have foreign entry stamps in your passport. However, be careful not to mention plans to go abroad with friends for a graduation trip anytime soon, since that could end up making things harder for you.