Regarding the relationship between the allowance you take home and your time

Um... this isn’t sex work. I treat every gentleman with the same level of care. I can’t carry on a conversation with someone I don’t feel comfortable with, so I’ll be selective.

I think people start calling it “selling yourself cheap” because they look at it as an hourly rate, like prostitution. In reality, the allowance divided by the length of the date will vary depending on what you do that day. It depends not only on the man you’re seeing, but also on the day itself.

You seem to be someone who has a hard time solving your own problems. Is this about a papa you’re physically compatible with? Are you currently trying hard to find a replacement for that compatible papa (assuming the LINE message was a typo)? And did your new papa tell you that you need to settle down once you turn 30? As for my answer, I don’t look down on my papa and think, “I’ll be kind enough to stay with him,” nor do I think I’m selling myself short. If we enjoy being together, we stay together. That’s all. Also, when you say “take-home pay”… do you mean you have a gross income too? Oh, so you pay taxes—good for you! That’s just my personal opinion.

Whether it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or a regular job where you deal with customers, you’ll encounter people who are more stressful, less stressful, genuinely interesting, or even soothing to be around. There are papas who let you blow off steam, be your true self, and say what you really think—and having that kind of time can be important for women, too. Some papas want that kind of relationship, while others don’t. As long as you understand that it’s a different kind of time you need, I think you can find a good balance within your life as a whole. Among papas, there are both men who want to comfort and take care of their partner and men who are the complete opposite. You can probably figure out which role suits each of you by seeing who spontaneously says, “Wow, has it really been that long?” and seems to be enjoying themselves. I think there are papas who want to entertain you and papas who simply want to have fun themselves. That said, based on the fact that you said, “I might be willing to spend a long time together with him,” it doesn’t sound like you’re quite that close yet.