Nice to meet you. I’m a 21-year-old woman considering joining Universe.

I lost my virginity in my late twenties. Potassium here. By the way, I spent a whopping ten years in girls’ schools, lol. This is going to be a serious and rather long post. If you like a man—or want to fall for one—but being a virgin feels like a burden and keeps you from taking that step: → I recommend leaving virginity behind through Universe Club. If you can’t fall for men within your age range, but hope to marry someone around your own age someday: → I don’t recommend leaving virginity behind through the club. The reason is this: If being a virgin is the reason you can’t date men, then virginity is a burden. Leaving it behind may make it easier to eventually graduate from papa-katsu and enjoy a normal life with men, like anyone else—not just papa-katsu. On the other hand, if you simply can’t develop feelings for the opposite sex, and the people you meet through papa-katsu are older men from the club, you may end up expecting too much from a future husband. That raises the hurdles you’ll have to clear when you eventually want to get married. It might be fine if you have the potential to clear those hurdles. But if you don’t, and you only have a desire to get married—while hoping for someone close to your age who isn’t involved in papa-katsu—I think losing your virginity through papa-katsu and then trying to maintain a long-term relationship can be extremely difficult, both in life and emotionally. For girls who haven’t been able to leave virginity behind despite being in environments where most people around them have, I don’t think it’s wrong to say that they’re generally not very good at relationships between men and women. That applies to me, too, as well as my virgin friends. If virginity is the reason your relationships aren’t going well, then leaving it behind may help. But if that wasn’t the real cause, nothing will change, and you may simply be left with a sudden sense of emptiness. Men can have sex even without love or romantic feelings. Especially when it comes to encounters through a club, I don’t think the sex is based on love or romance. That’s my personal opinion as a former virgin who left it behind in her late twenties.

Looking at the previous answers, many of the female respondents said they’d rather have their first experience with someone they already knew than with a complete stranger, so I feel there may be some emotional aspect to it that men don’t understand. From a man’s perspective, if the person is a good match, it shouldn’t matter where you met them. That said, even among men from Universe, there are some odd ones who treat women like they’re in the sex industry, so I do feel sorry for anyone who ends up with someone like that. With that in mind, it might be better to follow the female respondents’ advice: first be with someone you already know, and then look for someone through a dating club. There are also some unconventional people. One woman deliberately went places where she was likely to be approached, searched for someone with exactly the kind of face she liked, had her first experience with him, and only then started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Apparently, she doesn’t see him anymore, but what mattered to her was that her first experience was with a handsome guy who was exactly her type. His personality didn’t seem to matter much. I don’t really understand that feeling, but is it similar to how men want to meet beautiful women? If it’s causing you this much worry, I think it’s perfectly fine to start by looking for someone who is exactly your type.

That’s a matter of personal values, so other people can’t really know. You probably won’t know yourself either, since you may only start thinking about it in hindsight. Personally, I don’t get involved with virgins because it’s too much hassle.

Whether something is a waste is a matter of personal values, so it’s not really for other people to judge. Incidentally, if you openly tell the club that you’re a virgin, you’ll likely receive a flood of offers from men specifically seeking virgins. There’s no denying that some of those men may simply want to sleep with a virgin. If you want to get the best possible allowance, the best approach is to report it honestly to the club, receive more offers, and compare them. However, if you want to build a lasting relationship with the man you meet, I think it’s better not to tell the club. I recommend registering as Type B, then confiding in only the men who make offers and whom you personally find appealing. Whether they’ll take an interest in you depends on your looks. That said, including your next question, I found you interesting and got the impression that you’re a woman worth getting to know. > To Mac: I’ve never wanted to make an offer simply because a woman was a virgin. However, if I like a woman’s profile and then learn that she’s a virgin, I do consider making an offer. Based on my experience contacting the club in such cases, I got the impression that women who openly state that they’re virgins tend to receive a lot of offers.