> When I receive one, I can’t help but become really curious about the woman!
It’s cute how excited she seems, haha (no offense).
I know exactly what you mean.
When she writes something tailored to the profile I’ve made public, it definitely earns extra points.
But the tricky part is that you can’t be sure she’s sending it only to you.
If she has a lot of private photos, it gives the impression that she’s really working hard to promote herself.
At the same time, while I think, “She’s really desperate,” I also find women who put in that effort rather endearing and want to support them.
Even if I don’t actually make an offer...
(“You seem wonderful” can sometimes be what leads to an offer, so it’s certainly not a negative!)
In fact, those women seem to disappear after a certain amount of time, perhaps because they found a good match and received so many offers that their profiles were hidden—or because they took a break or left the site.
I tend to add people to my favorites pretty casually, so some of them respond with “You seem wonderful.” I currently have 29 visible.
(I feel like they used to disappear after 30 days, but apparently they remain for 60 days now.)
Oh, I could just check the profile-access data.
The display policy for profile information changed last year, so looking at the period since then...
My monthly number of “You seem wonderful” responses has fluctuated between 16 and 62, with the 20s being the most common.
Last year, I felt I received one “You seem wonderful” for every three profile views, but this year it’s more like one in four.
Incidentally, about half of the “You seem wonderful” responses I receive include a comment.
Of those, perhaps a third are copy-and-paste comments or slight variations of them.
To my surprise, most women really make an effort to write something, and I’m genuinely grateful.
That ratio hasn’t changed much, probably because I haven’t edited my profile.
The chances of it leading to an offer aren’t very high, so I always feel a little bad about that...
Some women even leave comments multiple times.
I imagine women also find it difficult to know what to write about when leaving a comment.
That’s why I include things like hobbies in my profile—something they can use as a hook.
Depending on which part they respond to, I can learn something about their personality, and it may make things easier to talk about when we actually meet.
Hope this helps.
That’s great. I hope you’ll send her plenty of offers.
I hardly received any likes from women who were my type, so I stopped making my profile public.
To be specific, out of the roughly 100 women I had saved to my favorites, only about two of them liked me back.
I don’t have mine public either.
If I ever got a message saying, “You’re lovely,” I might get so curious that I’d end up making an offer, haha.
I’ve decided to stick with one woman and keep things low-key, modest, and discreet.
I might make it public once things with my current companion come to an end, though, haha.
I find approaches from women I’m not interested in bothersome, so I keep my profile private and get none.
In fact, I was fed up with the flood of likes I received on the app.
That’s based on my experience.
I’m a female member, so I’ve only ever sent offers, but I’m glad to hear you’re enjoying yourself.
I hope you’ll send her an offer!
I once worked toward sending 20 messages a day, lol. I thought I’d be able to complete the branch’s entire roster of male members in no time.
I kept each message to almost exactly 200 characters—the character limit—so looking back, I guess all the writing I wasn’t doing as a respondent was going into those messages instead…
Just sharing my experience.
