I have a papa (a male supporter) who seriously creeps me out.
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I pretend in front of him that I don’t have many papas. Then he gets all high and mighty, asking things like, “What is papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?” and giving me unsolicited advice, such as saying that the Minato-ku-girl look is the way to go. He even bragged about how many girls invite him out—I almost burst out laughing.
He was so creepy that I kept turning him down by saying I was busy. Then he said, “I assumed you’d found another papa, so I let my guard down and didn’t ask you out. How have you been lately? If you want to see me, I’ll meet you.” It’s hard to tell him outright that I don’t want to see him, so I just replied, “I’ll be waiting for your invitation!”
Are all papa-katsu guys like this?
It’s basically the same kind of gripe you hear from people who work in the nightlife industry.
It’s true that some women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are desperate to make money. But including those women, papa-katsu is really about enjoying the fun, ideal lifestyle you couldn’t otherwise have.
It’s about finding someone you want to travel with, go sightseeing with, visit hot springs with, go to spas or get massages with, work out with, give massages to, receive massages from, discover great restaurants with, go out with, and simply enjoy everyday life freely with.
If you can’t make lots of those wishes come true, then can you really call it papa-katsu…?
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You get that reaction because you lie to his face and claim you don’t have many papas.
Honestly, that’s really mean-spirited.
Let me ask you the opposite: Are all women who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as mean-spirited as you are?
I don’t think so.
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“It’s hard to say you don’t want to meet…”
Then why not just say so clearly? lol
If you’re not going to be upfront, I think you should make things enjoyable by playfully teasing each other a little and occasionally throwing out a few jabs.
A relationship should benefit both people, and as long as you’re both having fun, that’s what matters, right? lol
Since it doesn’t seem like you’re enjoying the relationship, try to find ways to make it more enjoyable.
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Just as there are many unpleasant women like the person asking this question, and genuinely good women are rare, there are all kinds of papas too. So I’m sure supporters like that exist.
Since the person asking comes across as unpleasant, I suppose they’re well matched—or equally suited to each other. Good papas choose good women, and good women can choose good papas too（笑）
It’s a little sad that they can’t choose and have to put up with someone just to stay in an arrangement.
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The only thing that’s definitely true is that the questioner isn’t suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and should quit.
That said, they don’t seem particularly suited to working in the adult entertainment industry or prostitution either. Basically, anyone who can’t feel happy when making other people happy probably isn’t cut out for customer-facing work.
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This post sounds like the kind of complaining you hear from office workers.
When I was a salaryman, I never complained—not once—and I didn’t associate with coworkers who constantly vented. I kept my distance.
When people complain, maybe they feel better because they’re relieving stress, I don’t know. But it definitely becomes a form of self-suggestion. If you stay around someone like that, you get dragged into it.
By saying things like, “I hate my job. It’s too hard. I don’t want to do it. I hate my boss,” they’re cementing those feelings inside themselves.
It seems like a losing proposition to me. I think this is exactly what “digging your own grave” means.
Well, if you can sleep peacefully in the grave you dug yourself, then go ahead and rest in it.
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Thanks for all your posts.
What you’re calling papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) sounds more like prostitution. The men who pay for sex may all be like that, but I don’t think people in allowance-based relationships are.
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