Hello, and thank you for your continued support. I’m the person who previously asked for advice after being stood up at the last minute twice in a row. Thank you very much for your thoughtful responses at the time.
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After that, hoping for a comeback, I made a third offer—but, unbelievably, I was stood up at the last minute again. So far, I’m on a three-date losing streak, with a 100% same-day cancellation rate for first dates.
By the way, all three women were different.
Since these were cancellations before the very first date, I don’t feel I was necessarily at fault. But after it happening three times in a row, I’ve started to wonder whether there might be something wrong with me.
I haven’t uploaded a photo to my profile on the club site, and I’ve barely written anything in my profile. Could that be the problem? Do the women get the impression that I’m some kind of fake account because I haven’t properly filled out my profile?
Or perhaps I was simply unlucky enough to make offers to three women who were all fake profiles, so none of the arrangements worked out.
Being stood up on the day makes dealing with restaurant cancellations afterward a real hassle, so I’d really appreciate any tips—or tricks, if you will—for avoiding last-minute cancellations.
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I’m answering for the first time in a while.
I’ve been on dozens of dates, but I’ve never had anyone cancel at the last minute, and late arrivals are extremely rare.
It makes me wonder whether there might be some underlying issue.
Why not try deleting your profile once and having the staff review and rewrite it for you?
It might also be a good idea to limit your offers to women who have dating experience rather than those who have never done this before. If they have a rating of four stars or higher, that should give you some extra peace of mind.
With Letter Date, I had several people fade out before we ever met. If you’re using Letter Date, you may be better off stopping.
The meeting location could also make a difference. I always arrange to meet in person at a private room in a restaurant, since many women prefer to avoid being seen.
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I’m Zuiki, a humanities guy and absolutely hopeless with data.
According to the setting data Dai has already posted, the same-day cancellation rates as of today in February are as follows.
They’re listed roughly in order of branches with the most registered female members:
Tokyo Branch: 3.3%
Osaka Branch: 2.1%
Nagoya Branch: 1.8%
Yokohama Branch: 1.0%
Omiya Branch: 8.0%
Fukuoka Branch: 2.2%
Chiba Branch: 7.1%
Kobe Branch: 0.0%
Kyoto Branch: 1.9%
Sendai Branch: 3.8%
Sapporo Branch: 0.0%
Hiroshima Branch: 0.0%
Are you in Saitama or Chiba? LOL.
Jokes aside, I was surprised to see that there’s actually quite a bit of regional variation. I figured there might be some seasonal variation, though.
This may not exactly be a tip, but I hope it gives you some useful perspective. Though you can check the data yourself anyway.
You probably have better things to do than I do…
If I had to offer one piece of advice, it would be this: you were the one who selected and sent offers to those three women who canceled at the last minute. I recommend taking a close look at your own selection patterns.
You always have the freedom to choose whom you send offers to.
If you discuss the situation thoroughly with your branch, they may be able to prepare a backup woman for you!
If three women in a row really did cancel on the day, I’d imagine the branch representative would want to do something to help.
Just my personal opinion, but I wish you the best of luck.
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I don’t think so, since Universe doesn’t use fake profiles. That said, it probably doesn’t create much excitement or make people eager to meet you.
You need to provide enough information to make someone think, “I’d like to meet her.”
Marika
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If that’s true, you were just unlucky.
If you make offers to women with star ratings, you may have a better chance of avoiding last-minute cancellations.
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I’m Fuleren, the self-proclaimed representative of men who get stood up at the last minute!
(I chose the name Fuleren in the hope that I wouldn’t get stood up anymore, haha.)
Don’t worry—there are absolutely no fake profiles here. I also don’t use a photo, and my profile is the type that has a reasonably detailed written description.
It depends on how you define “last-minute cancellation,” but some women don’t even show up at the meeting place on the day. In my experience, it happens about 10% of the time… That’s a lot. I can only assume it’s because I’m not very popular, haha.
(If you include same-day and day-before cancellations, the percentage is even higher.)
According to feedback from women, my star rating apparently isn’t particularly bad—you can ask the staff about it—so the possibilities might be:
1) My profile is creepy—not just the photo and writing, but also my age, height, weight, and so on.
⇒ Maybe they can’t bring themselves to say, “I don’t want to meet you.”
2) The woman mistakes the service for a dating app.
⇒ Every now and then, a woman will say in her introduction, “I registered on this site because…” When I hear that, I feel like saying, “Whoa, this dating club isn’t the same as some random website!”
This seems especially common among women in the lower tiers…
Something like that, I suppose.
Honestly, whether a woman has a well-written profile or not doesn’t seem to have much connection with the likelihood of a last-minute cancellation.
(It was probably just me being pathetic. Sorry.)
Still, isn’t it okay if someone cancels at the last minute? If you force a meeting, it probably won’t go well anyway, and you’ll just waste the arrangement fee.
Think of it as someone who wasn’t going to work out removing themselves from the picture, and move on to the next person.
If you really want to avoid being stood up, I’d recommend asking to be introduced to someone the staff recommend, or trying someone with a higher star rating.
Hope that helps.
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You’ve probably been using dating apps a little too much, lol.
There aren’t any fake profiles at a dating club.
If you’ve had three last-minute cancellations, aren’t you choosing women based solely on their looks? This is a question that’s been answered in the Q&A box over and over.
Try choosing someone who looks average but has a well-written, detailed profile. Or tell the staff you’ve been stood up three times and ask them to recommend someone who has never canceled before.
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I don’t think there are any paid shills, regardless of gender…
There was one man who had approached me in the past after two women he contacted right after joining had canceled on him at the last minute twice in a row. At the staff’s suggestion, he then approached me as his third option. So three last-minute cancellations in a row isn’t impossible.
As for profiles, I personally tend to have a better impression of people with a simple profile and no photos than those who post selfies along with a detailed rundown of this and that.
By the way, you’re not doing letter dates, are you? Are you making strange requests right from the start—like saying what kind of things you want to do before even meeting? (Sorry for jumping to conclusions.)
If that’s not the case, you’ll probably just have to chalk it up to bad luck and move on. I’m sure you’ll meet a great woman next time!
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I’m sorry, but I suspect there may be some inaccuracies in the question.
According to the setting data the club recently implemented, the same-day cancellation rate is 3%.
For that to happen three times in a row would be extraordinarily rare—you can see that, right?
Same-day cancellations don’t generate any revenue for the club, and female members who cancel on the day are generally removed from the club, meaning the club loses a member.
If three consecutive arranged dates were canceled at the last minute, I would expect the staff to panic and take some kind of action.
Incidentally, apparently many male members don’t even fill out a profile, and more male members don’t upload photos than do.
In other words, I believe the questioner’s assumption is off the mark.
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> Since it’s such a hassle dealing with restaurant cancellations and everything else when someone bails on me at the last minute, is there any trick (?) to prevent last-minute cancellations?
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There’s no trick for that.
> I don’t have any photos on my profile on the club site, and I’ve barely written anything in my profile. Could that be the problem?
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I don’t think the lack of a photo is the issue, but I think that’s probably it.
Let’s take this more seriously, shall we? (lol)
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I don’t think there are any fake profiles, whether male or female.
You may want to check whether you’ve written anything nonsensical like this question in your otherwise mostly blank profile. Also, since we can’t view your profile, I think it would be best to have the staff at your branch take a look.
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