I’m Zuiki, a male member who feels embarrassingly late to the party.
Even though the asker says their problem has already been resolved, I know I’m bringing this up way too late—but I felt genuinely concerned, so I wanted to share my thoughts, or rather, my experience.
First, what worries me is that the question was posted at 9:58 p.m., corrected at 10:05 p.m., and then marked resolved at 11:03 p.m. after only a handful of answers.
Another interesting point is that, despite resolving things so hastily, the asker says things like, “I’ll take my time and see how things go,” “This is my last question because there’s no end to it,” and “I’ll take things slowly and keep going at my own pace!!”
Do you see what I mean?
The women I’m seeing never state their own expectations. Their understanding is that what matters is how I evaluate them.
If you intend to say over a pleasant meal that you consider yourself a 7 or higher, I’d prefer you to write that in your profile beforehand. A lot of men might feel put off if they were told that directly.
For what it’s worth, I started using this club with a pay-per-meeting allowance of 50,000 yen, but what I’m able to offer the woman I’m currently seeing is worth more than that.
In other words, that’s how it works.
That’s simply my personal opinion, for your consideration.
Be careful when stating the allowance you want.
The reason is that women whose arrangements are going well generally don’t need to bring it up themselves. Even if they leave it up to the papa, the arrangement continues smoothly, so they feel secure—and reasonably confident. There’s no need to rush things.
Women who haven’t been able to continue with anyone beyond one or two meetings often blurt out the allowance amount because they’re too focused on getting paid.
Who’s going to continue seeing you three or four times—or more—at that kind of amount???
If you’re asking for an allowance of 70,000 yen or more, especially if you’re the one to bring it up, this is the conclusion people may jump to. Be careful. A man might go along with it silently for one or two meetings, but continuing beyond that is unlikely. Depending on the situation, you may even want to be prepared for him to leave after just a few minutes without going to a hotel.
If you only want to date papas you actually like, wouldn’t B be the better option?
You’ll get fewer offers, but I think it would help reduce mismatches.
If you keep turning people down with C, your rating might drop.
