I asked my papa (a male supporter) for a birthday present, met him that day, and then sent a thank-you LINE message—but he’s ignoring me. If I’ve already put him off, there’s no way to repair things even if I take back my request, right…?
Would it seem pushy if I sent another message apologizing?
I really liked him, so I regret what I did.
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Why not reach out, even if you don’t expect much? Just tell him you don’t want a present.
I once had someone rather pushily ask me to meet at a department store for our second date and buy her a birthday present, so I blocked her.
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Women’s emotions—happiness, anger, sadness, and joy—are all so expressive and adorable, including when they ask for gifts.
Maybe you two just weren’t compatible, maybe there wasn’t enough innocence in your expression, or maybe you led with calculation.
From that papa’s perspective, it simply means he didn’t have that enjoyable a time.
Whether you acknowledge your lack of appeal or move on to the next one is up to you.
Also, birthday gifts are supposed to be something the other person gives you without you having to ask, right? You wait until they ask, “What would you like?”
Of course they’d be put off if you brought it up first…
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If you apologized sincerely and he’s still sulking, then he’s probably just a papa (a male supporter) with a small heart.
At first glance, this seems like the most likely explanation. Surprisingly, a lot of people get upset over little things.
That said, if this papa is extremely popular, gets approached by lots of girls, and is in a position to choose, he may have thought:
“There are plenty of other sweet, straightforward girls who don’t ask for things… Maybe I’ll cut this one off because she made a request.”
It’s unfortunate, but reflect on what happened and use it as a lesson for next time.
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When you’re dating someone, there will inevitably be times when you look back and think, “I really messed up…” and regret what happened.
You can never change the facts of what happened, so there’s no point dwelling on them forever. However, the meaning you give those events can be changed in any way you choose, depending on how you look at them from now on.
For example:
◯ “They didn’t see me asking for a modest birthday present as cute. I guess we simply had different values.”
That’s one way to look at it.
◯ “This is a learning opportunity—a chance to figure out how to repair the relationship after putting them off. I’ll do my best to get back together.”
That works too.
◯ “I thought we had reached the point where we’d exchange birthday presents, but apparently their feelings hadn’t grown that strong. From now on, I’ll approach relationships more calmly and pay closer attention to the balance of our feelings.”
That’s another option.
◯ “Whatever! He was just a stingy, broke guy who got turned off because I asked for a birthday present.”
That works too.
The meaning you choose to give those facts is something you get to decide for yourself.
I hope you’ll choose an interpretation that helps you move toward a happy and fulfilling life!
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Thank you as always for your support.
I’m Zuiki, a male member who can’t give what he doesn’t have, no matter how much he’s asked for it.
So, you genuinely regret messing up, right?
When that happens, all you can do is sincerely take back what you said and apologize.
You’ll feel better regretting something you did than regretting something you didn’t do.
Even if she leaves you on read or blocks you, so be it. The fact that you reflected sincerely and apologized will remain. I wouldn’t consider a heartfelt apology message annoying. And if your relationship is such that it would be seen as annoying, then there probably isn’t a future for it anyway.
By the way, the woman I’m seeing never asks me for anything, which is actually pretty difficult for me, lol.
Just my somewhat unconventional opinion.
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If I received a sincere apology by LINE, I think I’d let it go this time.
That said, I’ve never really cared about anniversary or special-occasion gifts, even in my personal relationships.
Some men are just like that.
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Whether you can get back together—and whether they’ll find you persistent—depends on the relationship and how you apologize.
Even if you tell them you regret it, it’s not like you have anything more to lose at this point. Why not just send them a message?
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Did you ask him for something expensive?
If he’s ignoring your LINE messages, there’s also a chance he’s blocked you.
It’s probably best not to keep sending follow-up messages. If he messages you again, just have a normal conversation.
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