I’m seeing a woman (Type B) in what feels like a pseudo-romantic relationship, but the other day I happened to discover that she works for a delivery-based adult service.
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I know I’m partly to blame for browsing those sites, but I’m surprised by how much it’s shaken me.
She’s the most fun woman I’ve ever spent time with, so I’m not sure what to do.
As far as her allowance goes, I’d say I’m a pretty generous papa (though I don’t really like putting it that way).
Personally, I see it as being more like a delivery-based adult service than a dating club. If it were only about physical intimacy, I could just go to a regular adult service or pick up someone casually. I use a dating club because I value something different from that.
What would you all do in this situation? Could you continue treating her the same way as before? Or should I just move on to the next person?
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That’s quite a shock.
Still, you can usually tell, more or less, whether someone has had experience giving blowjobs.
I’m sure there are women who were struggling financially and tried working at a delivery health service as if it were just a part-time job. If it was in the past, I could probably accept it to some extent. But if she’s doing it currently, I’d end things and look for someone else.
I’d rather avoid someone who’s had sex with lots of different customers as a sex worker.
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I’d talk to her as soon as I found out.
Even among women who work in the adult-entertainment industry, there are A- and B-type women at Universe.
If I were to have an adult relationship (intimate) with a woman who works in that industry and was “teppan,” I’d actually find that intriguing in its own way.
On the other hand, if I found out that a C- or D-type woman worked in the adult-entertainment industry, I think I’d say goodbye.
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That’s really unfortunate about the woman working in the adult entertainment industry.
Since you’re already involved in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), are you still looking for women through the sex industry? I think you should choose one or the other: papa-katsu or the sex industry. Please don’t do anything embarrassing like losing your life to an STD or hepatitis.
If you really like her, why not do what Joe suggested and help her leave the industry?
If I were a man, I’d cut ties immediately.
There are still plenty of women at Universe who haven’t received a single offer, so I recommend making a new offer and thinking of it as helping someone out.
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If it happened early in the relationship, I’d end things immediately.
But if we’d been seeing each other for a while, I was enjoying our dates, and I’d grown quite fond of her, I think I’d be honest with her and say something like:
“I happened to find you on a delivery health service site. It makes me sad to know that someone I care about is working in the adult-entertainment industry. If I increased the financial support I give you, would you consider quitting?”
If the amount she asked for was beyond what I could afford, I’d accept it and choose to part ways.
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The only option is to end things. If you’re being kept hidden, there’s no point in pursuing a relationship through an arrangement club.
From now on, I think you should also assess the allowance amount more carefully. Women who prioritize making money—not necessarily only through the adult-entertainment industry—tend to be comfortable asking for higher allowances.
Alternatively, you might benefit from gaining more experience with women, such as pursuing a relationship without an allowance with a dispatch-companion worker or someone similar.
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It’s probably about the earnings.
If I could give you just one piece of advice, it would be to have twice the amount they quoted ready. There’s a good chance they’ll come back if you offer exactly what they asked for.
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Just as office workers go on dates with people they meet through dating clubs, I think people who work as call girls also use dating clubs. Is it wrong to think of it that way?
Whether you go again or not should depend on how you feel. Why ask other people?
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I think life is full of surprises, and that’s what makes it so enjoyable.
What you have with this woman is a compensated dating arrangement, while what she has with her delivery-service customers is a relationship between a sex worker and her client. If you had met her through the delivery service, your relationship with her would have been that of a sex worker and her customer.
So I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that in itself, and I doubt my attitude toward her would change. If it were me, I’d probably tell her, without expecting anything in particular from her, “I happened to find out that you work for a delivery service.”
If she seemed comfortable talking openly about it, I’m sure my curiosity would get the better of me, and I’d want to hear the unfiltered details about her work.
That said, I’m dating multiple women, and I feel the health risks are too high with someone who is currently working in the sex industry. So if she intended to continue that work, I would probably end the relationship.
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That’s a pretty difficult situation.
Women from the sex industry do sometimes sign up with dating agencies, but many choose either Relationship Type A or Relationship Type B.
Apparently, their reasons are that they dislike not being able to choose their partners when it’s work, and that they can’t turn down someone they aren’t attracted to.
At dating agencies, many say they want to meet and be intimate only with people they genuinely feel drawn to, without those kinds of constraints.
With that in mind, since this woman has chosen you, I think what you have is more than just a physical relationship—it likely involves genuine feelings as well.
So it might be perfectly fine to act as though you never found out and continue seeing her as before.
However, if you really can’t accept being with someone who has sex with various men, then ending things may be best.
I think you should decide based on what you want from her and what matters most to you.
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I think my situation is different from the person asking the question, but speaking for myself…
1. I’d end the adult relationship, unfortunately, because I’m afraid of illness.
2. If she were someone I really liked, I’d be fine with staying friends and meeting for tea. In fact, one of the women I’m seeing has told me she’d still like to meet for tea even if we stopped having an adult relationship, so I think I would.
3. I think I’d look for an adult relationship with someone else.
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