I’m the person who asked about chlamydia earlier.

Many papas at clubs are highly educated and went to all-boys schools for middle and high school. I’m pretty much the same. By the way, I’ve always been extremely interested in women’s bodies. Some of my classmates went on to attend the University of Tokyo or national medical schools, and some became lawyers, but they still get around in their own way. Your papa and your boyfriend are the same kind of people. Anyway, they say faith can save you, so please try to trust your boyfriend.

The question contains a personal attack against the respondent, so it should be hidden. Still, the way you brushed it off so lightly is impressive. I don’t understand how the asker can personally attack someone and then act as if nothing happened. This is a place to ask questions, not to attack people. If you don’t like the answer, you simply shouldn’t have asked the question.

Before asking someone to trust you, make sure you’re someone they can trust. It’s your choice whether to have a boyfriend. And of course, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is your choice too. But is it really okay to do papa-katsu while you have a boyfriend? It shouldn’t be possible in the first place, so the situation is seriously twisted. Why do you have a papa (a male supporter)? Why do papa-katsu? If you don’t need it, just don’t do it and stick with your boyfriend. You can keep both relationships separate if you’re able to treat them as a transactional relationship. But if you’re completely devoted to your boyfriend, that’s impossible. This is seriously messed up, so fix it as soon as possible.

If the person asking the question has caught that many STIs, then even if her boyfriend hasn’t been cheating, he’d end up catching all of them too, wouldn’t he? Judging from the way she writes, they seem really in love. I feel sorry for her boyfriend. If she kept the number of partners to a reasonable minimum and chose them carefully while doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) through this club, it seems unlikely things would get that bad. But I don’t know how many papas she’s been seeing, so I can’t really say for sure…

This is Potassium. I’ve edited my answer to say that it’s better not to judge whether someone is cheating based on their title or background. Sorry I didn’t make that clear from the beginning. So I do think you should trust the boyfriend you believe in. (I’m pretty sure I wrote that too.) I have no disagreement there, and it’s not that I think the boyfriend as you see him is wrong. What I felt was shallow wasn’t that you were “naive because your boyfriend deceived you.” It was deciding with absolute certainty that your papa was the one who passed it on to you, despite having no proof, and then filling the question box with complaints. This question is another example. And since I’m writing an answer too, I guess both you and I are equally pitiful and shallow people. As for the rest... I don’t particularly want to be cherished by my boyfriend. I’m not just putting on a brave face—I focused too much on his credentials, and honestly, I didn’t really love him, so I actually feel bad for my ex. If it’s someone I truly love, whether they cherish me or not honestly doesn’t matter. Everyone expresses affection differently, and there’s no way to know exactly what it means. If I love them, that’s enough. Being cherished by the other person isn’t something I expect; I just want to be able to cherish them myself. If that becomes painful and I can no longer trust them, then it’s over. That’s just how relationships are, right? And no, we weren’t a group of like-minded people simply licking each other’s wounds. I’m embarrassed to admit it, but I think the thing we had in common was that quite a few of us were virgins. Then, when some of the guys took that first step, they’d get hooked on escort services or be taken along by their older friends. Everyone would tell me those stories because they were funny. Later, when I asked my boyfriend whether the rumors were true, he’d say, “They really were true!” and tell me all about it. Maybe you’ve had far more experience with adult relationships and romance than I have. Wow, impressive! Anyway, that’s about it. I didn’t mean to make you uncomfortable, but I guess I did. My apologies. Still, I figured that comment would bring an angry question my way, so I was actually a little happy. Thanks. And I have to say, I reconsidered you a bit when I saw that you were polite enough to call me “-san.” lol The real reason things got heated is actually... hehehe. I caught a fish! That’s just my personal opinion.

If you realize you know that man better than the person answering, then don’t ask a complete stranger about him. It’s absurd that you’re betraying your boyfriend while expecting him not to betray you. I believe relationships are like mirrors: in many cases, what you do to someone comes back to you from them. Only when you yourself remain faithful do you have the right to expect not to be betrayed.