Does doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) mean I’m a weak person?
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I understand intellectually that I should avoid having sex for money whenever possible. But another part of me conveniently tells me, “Everyone does it, right?” and makes me want to do it again.
I understand that I’m not normal. I know the way I think isn’t normal, and I want to be normal again.
Should I quit papa-katsu?
I’m Zuiki, a male member and probably the weakest person at Old Maid.
I don’t think you should give up on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) just yet.
I don’t see papa-katsu as something as simple as having sex and getting paid. So I think you should keep going until you find a form of papa-katsu that’s about more than just sex and money.
Do you think everyone who doesn’t do papa-katsu is “normal” by your standards, while every Universe member who does papa-katsu is abnormal?
I do papa-katsu quite normally. I’ve never once thought of the women I date as abnormal, and I don’t give them an allowance simply because they’re willing to have sex with me.
You may think that sounds like empty idealism, but this is simply a matter of my personal outlook. It’s neither idealistic nor cynical—it’s just the way it is for me.
What other people do doesn’t really matter, does it? The important thing is what you want to do!
All human beings are weak to some degree, so you don’t need to worry.
This is a pretty strong personal opinion.
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I think the papa-katsu women you have in mind are those who make their living solely through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
However, some women in papa-katsu have regular day jobs and do it simply to enjoy a more comfortable lifestyle.
If you’re referring to the former, it’s essentially the same as working in the nightlife industry, so it would probably be best to quit while you can.
If you mean the latter, I think it’s fine to continue as long as you stay within what you’re comfortable with and enjoy.
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I’m Potassium, a female member.
If that’s how you feel, I think you should quit.
The reason I say this is that, if you’re asking a question like this, I feel you’re either weaker than you used to be or just as weak as before.
When you started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), did you consult someone and have them encourage you to go through with it? If so, that means you still can’t take responsibility and decide for yourself what you should do, and how, just as you couldn’t in the past.
Papa-katsu can often give you enough financial leeway to make time to reflect on yourself. Doesn’t the fact that you weren’t able to grow as a person for your future mean you wasted that opportunity?
On the other hand, even if you made the decision to start papa-katsu yourself, if you now wonder whether you’re weak but still can’t decide to quit, perhaps you’ve become weaker because you’re no longer able to make decisions as an independent adult the way you used to.
I think you shouldn’t do papa-katsu if you’re going to become a weak woman. Your future will be completely bleak.
A parasite dies when its host disappears and it can’t find another one. And with papa-katsu, the number of people willing to support you decreases as you get older.
That’s just my personal opinion.
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If papa-katsu doesn’t feel normal to you and you want to live a more conventional life, I think you should quit.
If you’re uncomfortable receiving money in exchange for an intimate relationship, I recommend looking for a papa who only does dinner dates—or working hard to support yourself.
I work hard enough to live independently without papa-katsu. Earning your own money gives you more options.
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If you think about it rationally, you should quit—and you’re probably better off quitting. It’s a world you’re better off never knowing.
But once you’ve experienced it, it’s also true that there’s hardly anything else quite like it.
Most people don’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so don’t let yourself rely on that as an excuse. Just decide based on whether you personally need it or not.
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