What do you do when you fall in love with your PJ?
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I started this allowance-based relationship thinking it would be enough if we could be intimate. I wasn’t interested in pseudo-romance either, so these feelings have caught me off guard. I know they might come across as creepy, so I’m planning not to tell her.
She reminded me what it feels like to be in love, and I’m nothing but grateful to her and the club. I intend to support her quietly, as long as I don’t become a burden.
She’s just a regular Gold-class woman.
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If you get too emotionally invested, they’re more likely to pull away, so I recommend seeing multiple people and spreading out your feelings.
In my case, I remind myself that my partner is in love with the money behind me, not with me, so I’m careful not to get too attached.
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I don’t think there’s anything gross about developing feelings for someone.
In my case, I actually like people who fall for me and show their affection through both their words and actions.
I think it’s fine to express your feelings, but if you come on too strongly, they might pull away.
And even if you don’t say how you feel, I think the other person will understand when you treat them as someone important.
I feel like my papa (a male supporter) is genuinely in love with me, but he treats me very well, so we have a good relationship.
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As I wrote in my latest column, you need the kind of determination to go all-in on something invisible, without any real basis. Don’t chicken out—place your bet.
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If you think about it normally, there are plenty of things you’re not supposed to do. Choosing not to do them is the wise way to live. Even more so if you’ve gained experience, grown older, and reached your forties—an age when you should know better. And people like that probably wouldn’t use a dating club in the first place. If it’s just about taking care of your sexual needs, wouldn’t an escort service be enough? In the end, you’re here now because you stuck your neck into places you weren’t supposed to. So why not go all the way once you’ve started?
Women say you’re sweet when they like you and creepy when they don’t. In other words, it all comes down to the result. You won’t know unless you put yourself out there, and without that courage, you’ll never truly connect with a woman. Saying, “I’m glad you reminded me what it feels like to be in love. I want to support you without causing you any trouble” may be completely male-centered and naïve, but if that’s genuinely how you feel, you should tell her exactly that. If she’s interested in you, you’ll definitely get a positive response.
When it comes down to it, I think what touches someone’s heart isn’t logic but passion. Sometimes it’s the fact that someone charges ahead despite getting all sorts of things wrong that really moves you. To be honest, my success rate was higher when I was just starting out than it is now, after gaining so much experience with dating clubs. I sometimes think that becoming convinced you understand things simply because you’ve gained experience can only work against you.
I think saying that your partner was “Gold” was probably just a way of expressing that you fell for her—not that she was some breathtaking beauty by society’s standards. Well, in that sense, the first woman I had a long-term arrangement with was “Standard,” so I win, I guess. Or maybe not（笑）. Still, I kind of understand how you feel.
Anyway, just be honest about your feelings and keep up those embarrassing antics where you ignore the age gap. If you find a woman who responds to that, wouldn’t you be incredibly happy?
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There’s nothing more wonderful than falling in love with an ordinary woman.
Because love is something you don’t need a reason for…
Rather than simply loving someone because she’s beautiful, wealthy, or a bad girl, sometimes—
falling for someone who isn’t your type at all, for no particular reason, might be what true love really is.
Since you met through a club, your relationship will never develop into an allowance-free romance unless it leads to marriage. So I think you can deepen your love for each other while continuing to exchange an allowance. In fact, because there’s an allowance involved, things may progress remarkably smoothly. Since she receives an allowance, the more often you meet, the more she’ll come to like you.
If that’s how you feel, I think you should move forward without holding back. As long as it’s a club romance, it’s different from ordinary dating. Even without saying anything, the club setup lets you express your feelings through the allowance every time you meet. You can do that only if you’re truly in love with her.
I think you should meet at least three times a week. If you go to see her every day—even for just five minutes—to give her the allowance, she’ll fully understand how you feel. You couldn’t do that unless you were in love with her.
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Haha, you’re really getting teased by everyone here, aren’t you? lol
Isn’t that a good thing, though? Even though it’s an allowance-based arrangement, I don’t treat it as just a game either. I wouldn’t call it love, but we’re getting along really well.
They do ask me for things from time to time, but after all, I’m incredibly popular... lol
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Reading this question, I didn’t get the impression that they were in love either.
“The person I’m seeing is an ordinary Gold-class woman.”
That wording doesn’t sound like something you’d use when talking about someone you’ve fallen for. The whole post feels detached—almost as if it’s about someone else. It even made me wonder whether they simply made up a story to ask a question on the site.
Besides, they say they’ve already decided what they’re going to do. So maybe they just made up this story to draw out how the respondents would handle the situation?
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Without confessing your feelings—that’s a given—I think you should offer as much support as you can as her papa (a male supporter) and always put her first.
If you do that, she’ll feel that you truly care about her and will likely come to value you in return.
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Please continue supporting her to the point where she says, “That’s more than enough!!” That would make her happiest and earn you the most gratitude.
Also, I felt the comment, “She’s just an ordinary Gold-class woman,” was unnecessary. If you’ve met such a wonderful woman, her class doesn’t matter—and calling her “ordinary” feels incredibly rude.
If she’s special to you, that’s all that matters. There’s no need to call her ordinary.
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I honestly can’t understand how the person asking this feels.
Even privately, I have plenty of opportunities to interact with young women.
But even if I were to fall for one of them, I think it would be painfully cringe for a man in his 40s to confess his feelings to her.
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I’m in my 40s, but I’m looking for a genuine romantic relationship—not pseudo-romance.
I’m living positively: going to the gym, making the most of my hobbies, and of course working hard at my job. In fact, I’m in better shape now than I was in my 20s, and after experiencing various failures, I’ve also learned how to manage my mindset.
In this world, it’s extremely rare for a woman to genuinely fall in love with a man. Perhaps you should calmly ask yourself whether, setting the financial aspect aside, you and this woman would really be a good match as boyfriend and girlfriend.
If it seems like the balance would be off, I think it would be wiser to keep your feelings to yourself.
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It’s creepy that you keep asking questions about every little thing.
What you should do depends on your situation, the other person’s situation, and the nature of your relationship.
You’re over 40—how about taking responsibility for yourself?
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