Once we’ve gotten fairly close, would men feel put off or lose interest if the woman invited them to a hotel?
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Is it better to simply go along when the man makes the invitation?
I’m looking for an adult relationship as part of a monthly arrangement, so “adult relationship” doesn’t mean I’m asking for an allowance.
👤Asked byGuest👩GenderFemale🎂30s👑Universe female member
I’m Zuiki, a male member.
If a woman I’m seeing closely suggests a hotel she’d like to visit as an idea for our next date, I’d be happy to make the reservation. It wouldn’t put me off or cool my feelings.
On the other hand, if she never expressed any preferences at all, I might start to lose interest. I might mistakenly think she isn’t very enthusiastic about seeing me.
That said, it’s obvious from reading the answers on this Q&A site that every man has a different way of thinking, right? So I think you should communicate closely with the man you’ve grown close to and pay attention to his values, principles, and preferences, making an effort to build the kind of relationship he wants.
Since he’s already put you on a monthly arrangement, I think he must be very fond of you!
Have confidence!
Incidentally, the woman I’m seeing always talks things through with me and makes an effort to be considerate.
That’s just my personal opinion.
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That’s what I’m doing this for, so once or twice a month doesn’t bother me. But if it becomes more frequent, I start to lose interest, wondering if she’s just that desperate for money.
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Always letting a man have things his way, no matter what, probably makes you seem like a woman he feels comfortable with.
That said, I think it’s perfectly fine to share your own thoughts during the conversation. Rather than suddenly inviting him out, you could say something like, “I’d feel a little lonely if you didn’t ask me out a bit more.” Try to draw out his thoughts while gauging the situation, and gradually communicate your own feelings as well.
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I’m not a handsome older guy, so I’ve only ever done allowance-based dating through Universe, but—
I’m sure he’d be happy. If it were me, I’d be so thrilled I’d probably do a handstand right there（笑）
If he has high blood pressure, though, he might burst a blood vessel, collapse at your feet, and accidentally let you see his underwear—so you should probably be a little careful how you bring it up.
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At dating clubs, I don’t repeatedly meet women without an intimate relationship, so I haven’t had that experience and can’t say for sure. However, I imagine I’d assume she wanted a larger allowance, even if she wasn’t pulling away.
In relationships without an allowance, things have usually become intimate because the woman gave me an obvious opening or directly invited me to take things further.
The safest approach would probably be to create an obvious opening and show that you’re open to that kind of relationship. If money isn’t the main objective, one option might be inviting her on a trip where you’d be staying in the same room.
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