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Jan 8, 2023 09:19
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🏅 大阪の昼寝引きこもりトレーダー
スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
The papa I was with for four years also said he saw papa-katsu content on FOD and went in for an interview.
He dresses casually, usually in cotton pants and a shirt. We look at our phones together and talk about Amazon Prime.
迷わない70代
Male
Send a reverse offer to this responder
パパ活歴11年目、回答者歴8年目の関西在住者。パパ活終活中（笑）
Age: 70 or older
👨 Male
Former Universe member
You’ll probably see me around Osaka Station soon.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Even if you see a couple in person, you’ll probably just think, “They’re an age-gap couple,” without knowing what’s really going on between them.
So I think you can get a fairly good sense of things by reading the information on this website, along with the columns written by female members, male members, and club staff, before coming in for an interview at the club.
P.S.
冒険商人さん,
FOD’s “Papa-katsu” is great, isn’t it? Since it was directed by Shinji Nojima, it also has that distinctive atmosphere of dramas from the bubble era.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを！
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中！
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです！
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I see. So hotel lounges are pretty common. I hardly ever use lounges myself.
When I went to the Westin in Umeda, I did once notice an older man who looked rather out of place for the atmosphere of a city hotel, sitting with a very young woman. They looked like an odd match, so maybe that was one of those arrangements.
For first dates, I usually choose a counter-style restaurant with regular seating, so I never bring up anything club-related. Someone might be sitting right next to us, after all.
When you’re not thinking about papa-katsu, you don’t really notice things like that even if they’re happening around you. But once you start paying attention, you’ll probably start seeing them that way.
If you’re looking for places where you don’t have to talk much, you might also run into them at movie theaters or karaoke spots.
P.S. The reason I choose counter seating is that I don’t think it’s a pleasant sight for a woman to have to look at some middle-aged guy straight on.
Other
I’m not familiar with Osaka, but as others have suggested, maybe a hotel lounge or a slightly upscale café…?
As for what I usually talk about on a first date, I’d say:
- Thanking them for the offer
- Introducing myself
- Preferred areas for dates
If the other person is willing to share, I might also ask about:
- The general area where they live
- Their past relationship history
(How long it lasted and why it ended)
- Their allowance and dating frequency
(Asking what their arrangements were like with previous partners)
- When they’ll be available to meet next
Besides the club’s Cinderella articles, there’s also plenty of information on Twitter and elsewhere, so I think it might be helpful to take a look!
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Regardless of what you wear, it’s probably best not to imitate the way he talks.
There’s nothing good about watching a woman grow fed up as she’s made to listen to the same stories over and over, thinking, “How many times have I heard this one?”
Personally, I think the conversation tends to flow when the woman talks about things that have recently happened in her life.
If the man has similar experiences, he may be able to offer some relevant advice.
Younger women tend to experience more changes in their lives, so they have plenty of new things to talk about by the next time they meet.
Older men, on the other hand, have fewer changes happening in their lives, so it’s not easy for them to come up with new conversation topics.
They’ve also forgotten much of their old glory stories after so much time has passed.
And unlike in a novel, everything isn’t neatly tied together with the thoughts and motives of the people around them.
Something may have seemed incredible in the moment, but once it’s summarized, it can end up sounding rather unimpressive.
Other
Why not watch just Episodes 1 and 2 of the drama Papa-katsu on FOD?
Atsuro Watabe appears as the papa (a male supporter).
You might even have a meeting like that through a dating club!?
Other
I’m Potassium, a female member.
Yes, I’d say couples with a noticeable age gap at a hotel lounge can give off a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) vibe.
By the way, if you feel awkward going there in person just to check it out, try searching online. I’ve also written a column about what I wore when meeting someone for the first time and what we talked about. If you look up other columnists’ posts too, you may find some helpful tips.
Well, that’s just my personal opinion, though~
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
Not just in Osaka—hotel lounges are full of them.
It’s hard to make out their conversations in the lounge, but in the elevator, it’s easy.
Even in a hotel elevator, you might overhear something like:
Woman: “Do you make offers often?”
Man: “Hmm, probably since around my fifth time.” ← Yeah, right.