I’m in my 20s and considering starting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because I’m struggling financially.

If you don’t want to be pressured into an intimate relationship, Type A at Universe Club would be the right choice. You’ll receive very few offers, though. That said, there are definitely men at Universe Club who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) without pursuing an intimate relationship. By the way, if you register as Type B but have no intention of becoming intimate and keep a man waiting through multiple dinner-only dates, that’s essentially misrepresenting your type. If you register as Type B, it’s only proper to decide after one or two dinners whether you’re willing to have an adult relationship (intimate) and let the man know.

It’s true that if you completely rule out an adult relationship from the start in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), it can be difficult to earn much money. There are all kinds of men registered with dating clubs. Some treat the club like an adult entertainment service and think, “I’m paying you, so do whatever I say.” Others view meeting through the club more like dating and want “a relationship with genuine feelings.” Either way, if you completely rule out an adult relationship from the beginning, it’s unlikely the relationship will continue. (The first type is obviously only interested in intimacy, while even the romantic type may think, “We’re dating, but we’re not intimate—isn’t that basically not a relationship?”) If you’re not struggling financially and simply enjoy talking with various mature men, then there’s nothing wrong with proceeding while ruling out an adult relationship. But if you’re having trouble making ends meet, it may be difficult to have a satisfying papa-katsu experience with dinner only (no intimacy). That said, becoming intimate with someone you don’t even like just because you need the money is essentially sex work. So I think it’s best to set a firm boundary there—turn down anyone you dislike no matter how much they offer—and aim to find someone you genuinely like who will support you generously. You could also try choosing a B-type arrangement, where there’s no adult relationship at the first meeting, and see how things go for a while.

I’m Potassium, a female member. Personally, I think she’s being pretty selfish. It made me wonder if that’s why she’s struggling financially. First, you need to ask yourself why you’re having trouble making ends meet. Unemployed → Get a job. Low salary → Why is your salary low? Is the company at fault, or are you unable to make the most of your abilities? (Whether you can demonstrate your abilities or not is ultimately your responsibility.) → Consider changing jobs, but it doesn’t work out → Why can’t you find a better job? → Because you lack the necessary skills. I can understand things up to that point. Japan may indeed be a difficult place to make a living, but people with ability are earning enough to support themselves. Jobs without much risk are already filled by people with those kinds of abilities. If you can’t break into that market, then you’re simply lacking in ability, strategy, and effort. If you’re genuinely struggling financially and need money, you can’t afford to complain about risk or be picky. The only high-paying jobs available that you might realistically be able to do are risky ones. Society isn’t that easy. No job is easy. Besides, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t a job in the first place—it’s entertainment, isn’t it? lol For information on possible occupations, please refer to the other answers. That’s just my personal opinion.

It depends on the man. With a club (and probably apps as well), men generally join seeking an adult relationship (intimate), so the proportion of men who don’t want that is quite small. If it’s papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)—or something similar—with a man you meet through ordinary channels, he’s less likely to ask for an adult relationship, so it should usually be fine. Also, since a normal meeting doesn’t come with any expectation of intimacy, quite a few men actually prefer meeting women who aren’t looking for money in exchange for a physical relationship. However, those men tend to dislike relationships that place a strong emphasis on money, so I’m not sure whether you’d be able to achieve your goal. On the other hand, if your values and expectations happen to align, you may get a very satisfactory arrangement.

Many men who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) are looking for a simulated romantic relationship. If they weren’t interested in the romantic aspect, they could just go to an adult entertainment venue. Don’t you think a man would lose interest if the woman he’s seeking that simulated romance with was thinking, “I absolutely don’t want anything physical!! Just pay me for having dinner with some old guy!!”? I don’t mean this harshly, but if that’s how you feel, I’d recommend quitting papa-katsu and trying a low-key hostess job or sorting packages at Amazon instead. At a snack bar or girls’ bar, you can earn ¥2,000 an hour or more just by chatting with customers across the counter. At an Amazon warehouse, you can make ¥1,500 an hour simply by sorting packages quietly. Fighting~

“STAP,” huh? That reminds me of, “STAP cells exist!” Someone claiming to be struggling financially while refusing an intimate relationship sounds about as dubious as STAP cells. “I hate being pressured into an intimate relationship, but I’m genuinely struggling to make ends meet!”