I know it varies from person to person, but what’s a typical length of time for an arrangement?
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I currently have four supporters I’ve been seeing for a year and a half. I’d like to continue seeing them for a long time. What should I be mindful of?
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Wow, you’ve been with them for a long time—four people, too.
It’s impressive that you’ve managed to keep them interested for so long without letting them get bored.
In my case, the women are younger, so they go through more life events and their cycles are shorter. They get a boyfriend, graduate, start working, get married, and so on—usually, the women are the ones who end things.
The longest arrangement I currently have going is three years. Even so, I think I just happened to get incredibly lucky with how long it lasted. The others generally don’t even make it to a year.
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It’s been six years with the papa I met before joining Universe. It’s been such a long time, but we still see each other once a week—maybe because our physical chemistry is just that good, or because our personalities click too.
My other papa will soon be entering his fourth year, I think.
Personally, while most of my arrangements tend to end after about two years at most, these two have lasted a remarkably long time and are still going strong.
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Come to think of it, people didn’t really talk about what the average duration is, so I’m not entirely sure.
Even among men, some leave the club after meeting someone they really like, so perhaps that makes it harder to hear about their experiences.
Still, this is just my impression, but if an arrangement lasts two years, it seems likely to continue unless the woman decides it’s time to move on. I imagine it might end when she gets married or something along those lines.
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Before I knew it, I’d been supporting two women for four years.
With one of them, we went on about two dinner dates, but we haven’t met for the past three years. She’s since become someone featured in the media, and I still keep in touch with her regularly and support her.
With the other, we only had two dinner dates last year, but I support her to a reasonable extent as well.
So I guess you could say we’re still going… lol.
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> I have four relationships that have lasted a year and a half.
That’s impressive!
Being able to maintain long-term relationships with four different people is proof that each of them thinks highly of you.
Basically, along with maintaining your current relationships, I think you need to keep deepening them rather than leaving things exactly as they were, just as Aya mentioned some time ago.
There are probably many ways to deepen a relationship, but I think it ultimately comes down to being considerate and reliable.
In my case, I have one partner, and we’re coming up on five years together. There’s a significant age gap between us, and she may also be someone who doesn’t—or can’t—get a boyfriend.
Still, rather than calling it pseudo-romance, ours is essentially a kept-woman arrangement, and we’ve built a trusting relationship. That’s probably why there are no signs of us parting ways anytime soon!
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In my case, I’ve met around 50 women:
- 30 ended after one meeting
- 10 ended after two meetings
- 5 ended after three months
- 3 ended after six months
- 2 have lasted over a year
To keep things going long-term, I make sure not to give off the attitude of, “I’m supporting you this much, so you should obviously do this much in return.”
In other words, I try not to approach the relationship by calculating whether I’m getting good value for my money.
I haven’t been able to maintain a relationship for more than three years yet, so I hope the person I’m seeing now will stick around for a long time.
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I think how long a relationship lasts depends not on the individual, but on the relationship itself.
The key is probably to focus on your relationship with that person without looking elsewhere.
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Why not ask the man something like, “How long did your relationships with your girlfriends—or exes—usually last?”
Some people’s relationships average a few years, while others have relationships that last for decades.
Is he the type who gets bored and loses interest as a relationship continues?
Or is he the type whose feelings deepen and who becomes more attached over time?
You might be able to get a general idea from how long his past relationships lasted.
(In the case of a club arrangement,) I think that factor has more to do with whether things will last.
You could say there are people who stop putting effort in once they’ve “caught the fish,” and people who want to keep giving it even more attention. Maybe men and women alike fall into one type or the other.
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