I’m the person who asked the previous question.

I made offers to various people and had fun. Lately, I’ve settled down and narrowed it down to about three or four. Some women simply aren’t suited to being involved with a lot of men. Also, I personally try to avoid messaging on LINE every day, since I feel like I might say something careless and damage the relationship.

That man may simply be passive. There are men like this: - He never messages first. - He never initiates dates. - He never initiates an adult relationship (intimate). - He always pays the allowance properly. - Even if they lose touch for a year or two, he’s happy to meet whenever she reaches out. A male friend who joined Universe around the same time I did was like this. Women might find that kind of man boring, but that was his style, and since the dates never stopped, he stuck with it. You said, “In the end, we parted ways,” but if he was a passive man, he probably wouldn’t be the one to say, “I don’t want to see you anymore.” So if he simply hasn’t contacted you, I don’t think you can necessarily conclude that you’ve broken up. It’s me.

I do wonder whether, from his perspective, he really considered himself to be dating you as your papa during those few months. You were probably still at the stage before he had narrowed it down to one person. I think there are plenty of men who make lots of offers without saying anything, while deciding which girl they want to focus on. If you’re not a Type A, then normally, if he wanted to invite you out, he would do so even without you making the first move. It’s simply that he didn’t choose you—it’s not necessarily that he wants to keep making offers and seeing lots of women. That may be the case, of course, but he may also just be in the process of looking for one person—or perhaps a few people—who match his preferences. Also, this is a separate issue from whether or not you’re suited to a dating club. Marika

It’s a shame Japan lost, but let me pull myself together and answer（笑） Thinking back to when I had just joined, I remember feeling nervous because I wasn’t quite sure how to invite a woman to have an adult relationship (intimate) with me. Perhaps the man you were seeing didn’t know how to ask either. It may not have been a matter of wanting to focus on just one woman or wanting to make offers to lots of women and have fun—he may simply have been inexperienced. That said, meeting for dinner only twice over several months makes it difficult to call it a close relationship. With club introductions, I think actually meeting in person is fairly important, regardless of whether an adult relationship (intimate) is involved. Was the man too busy and unable to coordinate your schedules? Or were you the busy one? If he was such a wonderful person that breaking up left you feeling shocked, it’s a little unfortunate that you weren’t able to meet more often. For men who join a club, it’s usually not physically difficult to make time for about an hour to have dinner or tea. The key is whether they feel motivated to set aside that time for you. Rather than your presence feeling like a burden, perhaps the opposite was true: maybe you simply didn’t hold enough weight in his life, which is why things ended. (Perhaps he had already found another wonderful woman, too…)

> He didn’t ask for an intimate relationship. Ah, so the man had only just joined the club, right? In that case, some gentlemen in the past weren’t sure how things worked and didn’t know whether it was appropriate to ask. I heard of one who gave her an allowance of 30,000 yen for dinner only (no intimacy), then they went their separate ways. In my case, though, I happened to say things like, “Wait, why aren’t you asking her? You should ask her out,” so I think he started asking the next women normally. There are men like that, so I think it might have been a good idea to casually bring up what might happen after dinner. About 90% of men will ask straightforwardly, but there are rare exceptions. In that situation, he may have mistakenly assumed that she wasn’t looking for anything beyond dinner. If so, he might have thought he’d like to meet some other women as well. There are all kinds of people, so it’s not easy to find someone who’s a good match for both of you.

Even though you’ve been messaging on LINE every day for several months, you’ve only met three times for dinner. Like Taro, I’d say that alone suggests there probably isn’t much of a future here. I only see about one in ten women more than three times myself. Some men may simply want to have sex with as many women as possible, but I think men generally want a long-term relationship too. Within a man’s allowance budget, I believe it’s possible to maintain an ongoing relationship while also seeing multiple women. Saying he wants to meet other girls is probably just a way of turning you down. You seem to be overthinking things, but the simple fact is that he no longer wants to see you enough to give you an allowance. I think it would be helpful to start there and think things through.

I agree with Mac-san lol. Now that the game’s over, here’s my answer(^^) As for your question, the fact that you’ve only had dinner together twice over several months makes it seem pretty unlikely. Why haven’t you met even though you message each other every day? If I like someone, I try to see her every week if possible—even if it’s not an adult relationship (intimate). If more than two weeks pass because our schedules don’t line up, I start feeling seriously concerned. Also, there’s kind of a “third-meeting hurdle.” During the first meeting, both people are mostly telling little lies, but gradually their true feelings start to come out. In many ways, I think the real starting line is the third meeting. If the second meeting is several months away, I’d say the odds are pretty low. To answer your question directly, I think men do want to meet various women. At the same time, it’s only natural to want to see again a woman they like and click with. So in most cases, they’ll have a main candidate—or potential main candidate—along with new offers. If she’s truly wonderful, he might even leave the club. I’ve quit once myself. But basically, the chances of things continuing for more than three meetings are only in the 10% range. Another respondent mentioned this in a previous Q&A, so I assume the odds are about the same for everyone. Anyway, summing up today’s thoughts: “Great job, Japan!!” and “Okamoto (Pa○-chan Ri○), what the hell were you doing? lol” Good night zzz P.S. The commentators on terrestrial TV were so pathetic that I’ll say this as a “casual fan”: What made the Japanese national team good—and also led to their defeat—was that they were “fearsome challengers,” and nothing more than that. The next goal should be to overpower the top teams, force them into our style, and toy with them. The aim should be to create matches we can win even if we don’t look like we’re giving it our all—and then have the composure to say at the post-match press conference, “Our opponents were strong, too.” Activities at a dating club have something slightly similar to that, don’t they? Oh, sorry. This is Jiro, the washed-up comedian haunting the Q&A box. No, I mean, this is just my personal theory（笑）. Actually, forget it—I’ll just be Jiro. Good morning, everyone! This is Jiro the Shitty Taro!! It may be sunny, cloudy, or rainy today, but let’s give it our all lol! Taro