I’m a C-type woman registered with Universe.

As Dai said, I’d tell them that dinner only is fine. Some people will make an offer for a dinner date, while others may suggest another day. People who are only available on one specific day because they’re traveling for work will probably fall through, but honestly, anyone who comes to me with a date already fixed because of a business trip probably wouldn’t be able to make our schedules work afterward anyway. So even if it falls through, I just think it’s for the best—we’re not wasting each other’s time. If someone really wants to meet me, they’ll ask about my availability and work around my schedule. Marika

If you’re okay with receiving no more than one-third of the adult relationship allowance for a dinner date, you can choose Type B. Otherwise, it’s better to stay with Type C. Also, don’t accept offers—or, in the case of a letter date, a first date—when you’re on your period. You don’t need to give a reason. For letter dates, though, you should explain why.

I can understand, to some extent, how the man who withdrew his offer might be feeling. Perhaps his thinking was something like this: - Since she’s a C type, there’s a possibility of entering an adult relationship from the first meeting. - If she’s on her period or otherwise unable to proceed to an adult relationship, even if they hit it off, things won’t progress that far. - He would ideally reschedule for a date after her period ends, but unfortunately, that was the only day he had available for a date in the near future. - In that case, he’d rather have the club set him up with another candidate and keep open the possibility of entering an adult relationship that day. In other words, I think it was simply the man’s calculation that he wanted to maximize the possibility of progressing to an adult relationship. That’s just a matter of the male member’s preferences—or desires—so I don’t think you need to take it personally. You can keep yourself listed as a C type as before, and if you’re on your period or feeling unwell, just let the club know in advance. I’m sure there are plenty of men who would still say, “I’d like to meet you anyway.”

I imagine that many well-off papas are busy people. If you’re looking for an ongoing arrangement and there’s a chance you’ll be on your period, please arrange things from the start so the offer is for a different day. If your periods are irregular, for example, if you expect your period during the first week of the month, please be considerate when setting up dates and schedule them for the third week instead. Especially when I’m making an offer to a C woman, I’m doing papa-katsu because I want intimacy. So if I get motivated and prepare, only to find out it can’t happen, it’s a big disappointment. Also, when a C woman cancels on the day by saying, “My period suddenly started this morning,” especially after refusing a first offer because she really doesn’t like the papa, papas who have made several offers may have had that experience before. So they may start thinking, “Period = excuse to turn me down.”

Type C means that, if the chemistry is right, the relationship may develop into an adult relationship from the very first day. In other words, when a man is looking for a woman who may be open to an adult relationship from the first date, he would offer to a Type C woman. Of course, there are cases where things don’t work out because the chemistry isn’t right. If negotiations go nowhere, some men may spend the day frustrated or head out to an adult entertainment venue. But if they’re told from the start that it’s during her expected period and dinner only, that doesn’t match the purpose of this particular offer, so they’ll decide to offer to someone else instead. I think this happens because you’re being honest, thinking you’re doing the right thing. It might be better to register as Type B and say, “If I really like the man, I’d be fine with it even from the first meeting.” > To Kazu I believe the question is about what happens when a man’s preferred date overlaps with the questioner’s expected period. In that case, perhaps you’re having the club staff tell the man something like: “My preferred date falls during my expected period, so I’d be happy to meet if dinner only is okay.” Then the man cancels, saying that he’d like to withdraw the offer this time—is that what’s happening? > Addition after reading Kazu’s reply That’s exactly what I thought as well. Since that date simply doesn’t work for you, it seems like you could just suggest another date. A specific offer tied to something like a business trip might fall through, but if it’s a local offer, I think the man would probably just reschedule the date rather than cancel altogether.

> Whenever I receive an offer and say, “That’s the day I’m expecting my period, so would dinner only be okay?” the offer is canceled 100% of the time. I’m not really sure what you mean by “100%.” Specifically, how many cases were there? Also, I don’t quite understand how you receive an offer on your expected period date every single time. Normally, you should be receiving offers more often on dates other than when you’re expecting your period, so I wish you had explained the situation in a little more detail. Also, when a Universe staff member contacts you about an offer, they’ll usually ask whether a certain date and time work for you. If you reply: “That’s the day I’m expecting my period, so would dinner only be okay?” the staff member will confirm with the man. In most cases, the man will decide not to go on that date. However, they’ll usually reschedule for another day, so it feels odd to say that the offer simply disappears. If the man happens to have a fixed schedule and is only considering a date on that particular day, then the offer may be canceled and given to another woman. But it’s strange that this would happen with so many men that you can call it 100%. Also, as you wrote yourself, relationship type C means something like: “If we hit it off over dinner or something similar, it may develop into a relationship afterward.” So saying, “Would dinner only be okay?” would lead them to conclude that you’re not really relationship type C. If you only want dinner, that’s relationship type A. If you mean dinner only on that particular day, that’s relationship type B. > I’m thinking about changing to type B. I think you should switch to B. Many men misunderstand the relationship types. Most of them don’t understand the difference between relationship type C and relationship type D. Yet they say bizarre things like they don’t want a woman who sleeps with anyone, as if she were type D. Those same men will accuse a woman of misrepresenting her relationship type if they can’t be intimate with a type C woman. If they hate being turned down, they should offer to women who are type D. It’s puzzling that they choose type C, where they should expect to be rejected 50% of the time. So, as you said, many men assume that they alone will be able to be intimate with a type C woman. You need a strong enough mindset to turn them down, or it will be difficult. I think you would be better off choosing relationship type B.

That does seem a little one-sided. That said, an expected date is only an estimate, so I don’t think you need to go out of your way to mention it before the date. I’m sure you were trying to be considerate, but sometimes your period doesn’t arrive when expected, and sometimes it comes unexpectedly. There are also plenty of reasons you might feel unwell on the day that have nothing to do with your period. Since you won’t know how you’re feeling until the day itself, I think it’s best to respond sincerely based on the situation at the time. Although, when someone immediately withdraws their offer after hearing that your period is expected, you have to wonder whether they deserve your sincerity in the first place. At an appropriate point during the date, you could tell your papa, “I’m not feeling well today.” He’ll probably respond with something like, “Take care of yourself,” or “Let’s take things more slowly next time.” Any papa who reacts rudely in that situation isn’t right for you. You should also report to the club that he made you feel uncomfortable. Also, looking at it from a man’s perspective, if a negative-minded papa who’s only interested in one thing is told before the date, “My period is expected around then,” he might have felt discouraged too, thinking, “Wait, I’ve been turned down before we’ve even met?” For that reason as well, I think it’s better not to mention your expected period at all. There are all kinds of papas, so while you’ll have some good experiences, you may also end up mentally drained like this time. If it’s too difficult, switching to type B might be an option, but I don’t think this is really an issue with your dating type. Even with type D, you have every right to turn someone down if you feel unwell or decide, “I can’t deal with this man!” That said, type B may involve less stress when declining, so it would be a good idea to discuss this with the staff. I hope you get offers from some good papas! —It’s Me

What does it mean when an offer is withdrawn? Do you mean that the date arrangement is canceled? The club shouldn’t tell the man that the woman is expecting her period, and even if she tells the club herself, I think it would only be conveyed as “her period is heavy, so she doesn’t want to go on the date.” I’ve had around 100 dates arranged through clubs, but I’ve never been told in advance by a club that a woman was expecting her period. There have been times when a woman told me during an arranged date that she was on her period. However, I’m not interested in being intimate with a woman during her period, so in those cases we simply make plans to meet again another day and part after having dinner. I’ve experienced that situation several times. I don’t think C Type is what you’re concerned about. Perhaps there’s been some kind of misunderstanding. Additional note: Could you mean that when you tell a man through a letter date that you’re expecting your period, the date gets canceled? In that case, by telling him that you’re expecting your period, it seems to me that you may inadvertently be implying that you intend to continue seeing him afterward, regardless of whether you hit it off. To Dai: https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/2299 I was told that Universe Club arranges dinner dates, so as a company policy, they are not allowed to pass that information on. I think that makes sense, and for that very reason, I understand that men are simply informed of the obvious fact that women menstruate. Even if a woman declines because she’s expecting her period, and the staff are able to forward that message, it still seems to me that—as with a letter date—the woman is voluntarily suggesting the possibility of things progressing regardless of whether they hit it off. Rather than simply saying that the date is inconvenient, bringing up an expectation of an adult relationship (intimate) as the reason—“because I’m expecting my period”—may be what’s making the situation unnecessarily complicated.