When I seriously thought about what would make me happy, I came to the conclusion that I should do papa-katsu (prostitution).

This isn’t even a question, yet everyone is answering it. Honestly, if you regret it, wouldn’t it be normal to try another way? Still, prostitution must be difficult. You’re pretending to be someone you’re not and killing your true self in the process, aren’t you? If that’s the path that will make you happy, then I think you should do it. But I do think there are other ways for you to find happiness. Marika

You’re talking about engaging in independent prostitution (or personal sex work?) through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). There may be demand for that from both men and women. If you’re that determined, you might as well consider working in the adult entertainment industry. Rather than focusing on the family circumstances you mentioned, I think acting with your own efficiency in mind is the quickest way to achieve your goal.

Men often ask about a woman’s family situation because they want to assume she’s struggling just enough to justify “helping” her—giving themselves an excuse that it isn’t simply prostitution. In a broad sense, it’s part of the role-play. That’s why some men apparently get strangely angry when they hear a more serious story than expected, saying, “That’s not the kind of story I wanted to hear.” The questioner never says whether her family situation is good or bad. You do need to be willing to imagine the kind of family background the man wants to hear and adjust accordingly. Because that’s part of prostitution too. Become a respectable prostitute. I’m not teasing you—I’m genuinely rooting for you. There’s something endearingly earnest and awkward about you.

As others have said, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t prostitution. So if the conclusion you’ve reached is that you want prostitution, then papa-katsu probably isn’t for you. That aside, regarding your question, it sounds like you’ve had an experience where things didn’t work out after you opened up about your family background. Rather than creating a different version of yourself based on that experience, I think it’s better to simply avoid showing your true self. You could brush it off by saying, “Please don’t ask so many personal questions.” Personally, I don’t consider men who aggressively press to learn about someone’s deeper circumstances, such as their family background, to be gentlemen.

To begin with, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) isn’t prostitution. If you believe prostitution is the only option, then working in the adult entertainment industry may be a better fit. Since those encounters are brief, you can earn money without having to share much about your personal life. And because you can see more clients in a day, it’s likely a more time-efficient way to make money.

I see intimacy as something I enjoy as a kind of sport. I work on my skills and focus on making women feel good. Then, on top of that, I enjoy myself too and give them an allowance. Everyone has their own way of thinking, but how you view the experience can determine whether it becomes something dark or something positive. If you think, “I’m doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so I’m basically selling sex and doing something wrong,” you’ll carry that negative energy with you and won’t be able to find happiness. Also, hearing about someone’s difficult family background isn’t exactly entertaining. A lot of men would probably lose interest when they hear that. You may be thinking, “Then don’t ask,” but because there’s often a significant age gap, men also make an effort to keep the conversation going. When they run out of things to talk about, they end up asking about your family background. For example, you could travel together and create shared memories, or find ways to avoid having to talk about your family situation. Good luck.

Female member Potassium here. Since I’m in a relationship through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), not prostitution, I honestly have no idea how the questioner defines happiness. But if prostitution is enjoyable for you, then papa-katsu might make you happy since you can choose your partners! Being happy because you can make money probably won’t lead to a happy future unless you have exceptional talent… It means you can only rely on men’s wallets, after all. As for my thoughts on your question: Since you’re doing papa-katsu through prostitution, if you can entertain your partner with your body alone, I don’t think you need to talk much. However, if you’re only mediocre physically and don’t have the intelligence to provide interesting conversation, it might be easier to gain sympathy and do papa-katsu that way. Plenty of men will do various things for you because they feel sorry for you. You could invent a fake family background, but unless you create an extremely detailed story, you might get caught and risk ending the relationship. Few people want a liar as a partner, after all. With high-level men, I assume they have more information and experience than you do in every respect. Well, I guess it becomes a battle of wits. That sounds insanely fun! I kind of want to try something like that, lol. If you’re intelligent enough to pull off that kind of battle of wits, you should be able to do papa-katsu successfully without having to gain sympathy. In short, if gaining sympathy helps you succeed at prostitution, I think that’s the smarter choice. That said, I feel there may be some kind of issue in the fact that the person is deliberately becoming interested in your family background, rather than your own personal history. Whether that’s a good thing or a bad thing, I don’t know. Hopefully it’s for a good reason—like a hawk being born from a kite’s egg. Just my usual personal opinion, though.

Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or allowance-based dating, isn’t the same thing as prostitution. It’s impossible to say across the board whether you should be honest about your family circumstances. Some men may want to help a dating partner who’s dealing with a situation beyond her control, while others may not want to hear depressing stories. Personally, I don’t feel like having a conversation with a prostitute in the first place. It would be strange to have a conversation with a blow-up doll, wouldn’t it? If you’re planning to prostitute yourself, I think you should skip the conversation and just focus on lending out your pussy.