She’s cute and charming, but still a little childish and not very sensual yet.

For me, it would be difficult to find someone on my own, so I rely on others. Soon after I joined the club, I started a papa-katsu relationship with a 19-year-old student in a rural area. She was cute, but at first she was very passive. Still, because she was so cute, I stuck with it. She eventually got a job at a sexy cabaret club and became the number-one worker, started living with her boyfriend, and got a full-time job. At the club, she was a perfect five-star member at the time—back when ratings didn’t increase as quickly as they do now. As she gained experience in various settings, she gradually became more and more uninhibited, proactive, and enjoyable. Her innocent, inexperienced phase was nice too, but I ultimately preferred her more uninhibited side. We stopped seeing each other after she got married, but I’ve had that kind of experience. It felt like watching her grow more comfortable and adventurous（笑） These days, my monthly arrangements are with women in their late 20s to 30s who are already uninhibited from the start. The satisfaction level is much higher.

> A cute girl with a charming personality If you’re able to develop a good relationship with someone like that, I’d say that’s already pretty sexy in itself. The question is whether you can feel that attraction. You need to feel it first and bring out her appeal. Since your excitement will probably be at its peak on the first day, if you don’t feel any chemistry or sexiness that day, you’re probably just not compatible. It’d be better to part ways and look for someone you naturally click with. Otherwise, you may just end up wasting your time chasing a fantasy.

What was it about this woman that attracted you in the first place? If it was her charm and cuteness, I feel like she might be fine just as she is. And if you prefer someone more sensual, it seems like you should look for someone like that instead. If you want to develop her, you should experiment through trial and error. I think it’s better to figure out along the way what works and what doesn’t. Mac-san is also good at developing women, but that’s probably a talent, so it’s impossible for most people. For example, getting someone to pose for outdoor-exposure photos—or making her go out onto the street naked on the very day they met (though I’m not sure if that’s what happened)—would normally be impossible. Developing someone is the same. It may sound easy when you hear about it, but I don’t think people can be changed that easily. That said, I can understand liking the challenge of doing something difficult, so rather than just asking about it, I think you should try different approaches yourself.

For a girl who’s charming, cute, and not overtly sexy… I think all you can do is take things slowly and gradually bring out that side of her. Don’t rush it under any circumstances. Also, you shouldn’t even think about trying to beat her boyfriend—it’s 100% impossible. She’s dating you because you give her an allowance.

I think women’s adult-oriented YouTube channels would probably offer more specific, on-point advice than I can. There are plenty of channels like that, but my personal recommendation is “Da-Shino ch” by adult actress Yu Shinoda. I support Da-Shino, so please subscribe to her channel.

Does that mean the woman doesn’t respond erotically when she’s intimate with you? I think whether you can bring out a woman’s sensual side depends on how good you are at foreplay. To be blunt, a skilled man can get reactions far more erotic than what she shows with her boyfriend. It’s normal for her to feel more comfortable and respond better after being intimate several times rather than just once. Good luck.

With a girl like that, I’d say the possibilities are endless. If it were me, I wouldn’t overthink things. I’d just gradually build intimacy in a considerate, pressure-free way. Have fun, be kind, and keep it a little naughty＾＾ It’s me.

The question is so ridiculously naive that it somehow circles back around to being kind of endearing（笑） If she’s actually quite naughty but just hiding it, she’ll normally open up as you keep seeing each other. As long as you build a good relationship naturally—without making blunders like blurting out your own desires with no regard for her, saying things like, “You’re naughty in front of your boyfriend, aren’t you?” or “I’d love a naughty girl”—I think you’ll start to see her true feelings around the third to fifth meeting, for better or worse. By the tenth meeting, it feels like things shift up another gear. If the trend line is pointing upward, just do your best not to lose points, and I think you can be perfectly happy. If she’s inexperienced and doesn’t know much about sex, you have to help her discover that side of herself. I think building a human connection comes first. Once you’ve established a reasonable level of trust, share a goal for how far you’d like things to go physically—what you want and what’s generally considered normal—and work toward it together. Though when I say “work toward it,” you’re the one doing the work. For her, that means gradually accepting your persistent advances. Make each encounter a little longer without pushing her past her comfort zone, try different things so it doesn’t become monotonous, and get yourself into the mindset where you can enjoy the signs that she’s becoming more aroused. Even if things don’t go perfectly, just make sure you finish with a shot. I think the key is building a setup where you can keep repeating that process. When you cross that line, it can happen surprisingly easily—but when you don’t, you really don’t. I think a man’s character shows in how patiently he handles that. When you think about it, isn’t a girlfriend who sticks with you even without things getting physical actually the best? She’s giving you her time even though there’s no naughty payoff. She’ll spend twice as long with you as a woman who already knows the ropes, patiently putting up with you trying every trick in the book by yourself. Then, when you finally give up and finish with a little hip vibrato, she laughs and says, “Wow, you ended with the face of someone who really accomplished something（笑）,” and you reply, “Don’t look at unnecessary details（笑）.” I think each of those little moments matters. She’ll definitely feel that too. In fact, the longer it takes to get there, the deeper your relationship becomes. Ah, but if you’re talking about the training-type situation, then Mac would be the guy for this. A threesome with a virgin on the very first day is pure science fiction to me. Sorry, my inner chuunibyou got baited by a question that was way out of my league（笑） Taro