Does jealousy toward beautiful women really exist?

There’s definitely jealousy out there. Jealousy over someone’s looks. Jealousy over someone’s wonderful personality. Jealousy because they’re good at their job. The unpleasant things being done to you are probably coming from women, right? People like that are bundles of insecurity, so don’t go near them or give them any attention. You’ll just waste your energy and wear yourself out.

It’s all in the questioner’s head. Besides, beautiful or wealthy people are less likely to face jealousy or harassment. Doing that to someone way out of your league would only make you feel pathetic. It’s unattractive or poor people who envy and harass one another. So if it were me, I’d be angry at being seen as their equal.

If you simply write off envy and jealousy as “bad,” you won’t get very far in this world. You have to navigate life with those things included. From a man’s perspective, and speaking a little slyly, you can use people’s envy and jealousy. Use their isolation. Take advantage of it. At the same time, you need to keep things from falling apart completely between the women involved. In the end, I deliberately make myself the bad guy. I intentionally damage my own position, then use that to smooth things over—or at least cover things up. My job involves being surrounded by jealousy and conflicts between women on a daily basis, but I don’t think women being jealous of one another is bad at all. That’s because I’ve seen so many situations where women who didn’t get along suddenly band together against a common enemy—me. Actually, that’s the best-case scenario. If I keep apologizing, most of the time they make up and the women feel relieved. Sure, it leaves me incredibly stressed, but I can go to a sauna by myself, clear my head, and everything’s fine. So, to me, jealousy and envy between women are like gasoline. They’re essential fuel—and, in a way, just the right kind of stimulation, a form of workplace entertainment. In other words, they have more positive aspects than negative ones. If I were nearby, I’d probably say, “You look like you’re having a rough time. Are you okay? I value you more than anyone.” And to the one who had been bullying her, I’d say, “You seem irritated lately. Are you okay? I value you more than anyone.” In the end, I’d become the bad guy, but later I’d quietly whisper to both of them, “No, I really do value you, you know.” So please be careful—there are bad men like me out there.

> It’s not all positive, you know. Everything has two sides! There are good things, but there are bad things too（笑） If you’re praised, you may also be envied—that’s part of it too（笑） I think the important thing is deciding what you want to do, knowing that. Beautiful people and wealthy people all have their own struggles. I’m glad you realized that.

Oh yes, something like that happened very recently. At one workplace, several women formed a project team. The project leader made a bit of a blunder and ended up being removed from her position. She had angered an important stakeholder, so there was really nothing that could be done. As it turned out, there was a mastermind behind it all. Just like Lady Macbeth manipulated Macbeth into committing one misdeed after another, the leader had been controlled by this person. All the members were similar in background, and the mastermind was usually the de facto leader there. The woman who messed up had been selected as the leader for this project, so I think the others weren’t exactly thrilled. She wasn’t particularly beautiful, but perhaps it was jealousy. I was shocked that someone would go that far—and saddened by the fact that I got dragged into it too. The project is continuing with an entirely new team. It’s me.

I’m Potassium, a female member. That does happen. It’s not at my company, but I often see older women being mean to young, attractive girls, haha. It seems to happen even more when they have to learn the job from them. But people who do things like that are usually… well, they’re that kind of person. That said, based on my life experience, I don’t think people are harassed out of jealousy for the sole reason that they’re beautiful. The other person may be hysterical, but I think the harassment happens because something you did—unintentionally—made them uncomfortable. You just don’t realize it because it was unconscious. There may be worlds like that that I don’t know about, but they’re probably pretty low-level, haha. Or maybe I don’t know that kind of world because I’m at the bottom myself. Who can really say where the bottom is? That’s just my personal opinion.

I think they do exist. There probably aren’t many of them, but some people in this world are prone to jealousy. That said, I don’t think jealousy was necessarily the reason the person asking the question was harassed.