I can spend my budget however I like, so I tend to offer more allowance than I should.
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When I’m talking with a PJ right in front of me, I end up offering an allowance that I think will make her happy, as long as it isn’t outrageously high. Rather than adjusting it to that PJ’s level, I offer whatever amount she seems to be hoping for.
They’re always very happy.
So I certainly can’t say that 50,000 yen is enough.
However, because of my work, I often meet carpenters and other skilled tradespeople. If I pay a tradesperson 50,000 yen, they’ll work hard from morning until evening, using skills they’ve spent years honing. And, to put it bluntly, they treat me almost as if I were someone they had to be extremely careful around. They’re very serious and sincere. Many of them are older, too.
That’s why I actually feel that around 50,000 yen per meeting would be just right.
I’ve never once told anyone that my pay-per-meeting allowance is 50,000 yen, but I’m thinking I might work up the courage to say it from now on.
What are your arrangements like?
I’m not necessarily looking for advice—I’d simply like to hear everyone’s different perspectives on allowances.
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First, work up the courage to say, “Five.”
If you have any regrets about how it went, then—and only then—is it okay to ask questions!
A stranger saying, “Let’s do it” or “Let’s go for it” has zero credibility.
“I did it, but this is what happened” is understandable, though.
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Respondents can see the questioner’s ID, so people will quickly realize it’s the same person.
I think the reason you’re only getting negative answers is that no one can really tell what’s true—whether it’s the carpenter story, the way you dress, or anything else.
Surprisingly, even online, it’s hard to hide who you really are.
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In your case, since you seem unsure about everything—from what to do to deciding on your allowance and outfits—I think it might work well to agree on a generous allowance, explain the situation for each date, and have the store put together a complete outfit each time. Then stick to that outfit without changing it.
Once you’ve established your own preferences and sense of style, you could even choose your own outfits for an allowance of 50,000 yen.
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In that case, maybe you don’t need to set either a minimum or maximum, or even decide on a pay-per-meeting amount.
The woman I’ve been seeing the longest and like the most through the club and I have never discussed or set a specific allowance. So it varies somewhat from day to day. Since we both started wanting to see each other even without an allowance for an adult relationship (intimate), we meet fairly often whenever we can. Sometimes there’s no allowance for intimacy, and other times it’s just a small token amount.
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If your dating partner is happy with the amount you’re offering, isn’t that all that matters?
What do you mean by having the courage to offer 50,000 yen per meeting? I don’t think you need that kind of strange courage.
I also read your question about clothing, and personally, you seem like a sincere person. I hope things work out for you.
If things are going well with her, I think you should simply continue offering an amount that makes her happy. If you’re overextending yourself and it’s becoming financially difficult, then you may have no choice but to reduce the amount—but please don’t lower an amount you’ve already offered. If that’s the case, it would be better to end things cleanly.
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I pay ¥50,000 per meeting, and the women are always very happy with that.
I think giving someone an allowance that’s far beyond what matches their level is cruel in a way.
Once that allowance disappears, it isn’t easy to return to their previous sense of money.
Also, comparing allowances to an ordinary job doesn’t really make sense.
If you insist on making a comparison, it’s more like the salaries of professional baseball or soccer players.
A woman’s prime doesn’t last forever, so if this is her main activity, it’s only natural that she’d try to earn as much as possible before retiring.
I respect women like that, but I have no interest in spending time with professional sugar babies.
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Because of my job, I often meet carpenters and other skilled tradespeople. Even if you offer them five or ten, they won’t take on work they don’t want to do.
On the other hand, if it’s a job they like, they’ll accept it even if the pay isn’t worth their while. I think girls are probably the same way.
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