Maezawa here.
If you’re thinking, “I heard the going rate is 3, so I’ll offer 3,” you may have fallen into someone else’s strategy.
For example, suppose someone keeps posting everywhere that the going rate is 3 in order to gain an advantage in their own arrangements. What if that person is actually offering 5 themselves?
Everyone else offers 3, but this person comes across as kind and financially comfortable, which greatly increases their chances of success.
You might think, “Then why not just say the going rate is 5?” But if they did that, their offer would be the same as everyone else’s. For example, with Dating Type C, their success rate might remain at 50%.
The internet is full of all kinds of information. People write things for various reasons, so it’s fine to use it as a reference, but I don’t recommend following it blindly.
As for the going rate, it may or may not even exist—it’s pretty vague.
It seems to me that an arrangement is成立 simply when the woman’s expectations and the man’s expectations match.
So instead of worrying about the going rate, why not offer the amount she asks if you really like her?
Negotiating after meeting a woman you’re genuinely interested in is rather tacky. (Of course, if it’s more than you can afford, you have no choice but to part ways.)
That’s why, while you’re having dinner, you should pay close attention to how much you actually like her and how you feel.
If you truly like her, I think you can still have a wonderful time together even if you pay her asking price.
