Christmas is just around the corner, and I’m thinking of giving her something.
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I thought I’d get a present for the woman I’m seeing, but while I can think of all kinds of things I’d like to give her—clothes I’d like to see her wear or accessories I’d like her to put on—I can’t think of anything she would genuinely be happy to receive except cash.
I’m honestly very uncomfortable with the idea of giving cash as a present.
So I’m torn between simply buying something I want her to wear (not “buying it for her,” but buying what I want her to wear), and meeting halfway by choosing something from the items I’d like to buy that holds its value relatively well and could be resold for a good price if our relationship eventually ends.
I’d love to hear what you all think.
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The quickest way is simply to ask her directly.
Also, some girls may feel uncomfortable going shopping for a gift with a man, so I wouldn’t recommend buying it together.
Instead, ask her in advance what she wants, buy it yourself, and give it to her at Christmas.
I’m still wondering what to do this year, but I’m fine with not getting anything, so I haven’t mentioned it to my papa (a male supporter) lol.
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Just as Early and Joe wrote.
You can browse around and buy something you want right away, or take your time looking for a few days until you find something you genuinely want.
If you’re quite close, you can even browse online shops together on your phones whenever you meet, taking your time to find something you really like.
Regardless of the price, when it’s something you were just wanting or had been searching for, you’ll both probably be genuinely thrilled. Seeing that reaction feels really good for me too.
Gifts used this way become cherished memories, and they’re things you can keep using and enjoying for a long time.
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Gifts for women aren’t easy, but I think choosing a gift for a woman from a dating club is even more challenging. As you pointed out, there aren’t many gifts that can beat cash. If you give her something she specifically wants, there’s the issue of cost—and what she wants may not be what the man wants to give her.
Going back to basics, I think a gift is a reflection of your feelings—both yours and the other person’s. So rather than simply giving her whatever she asks for, how about thinking carefully about her and giving her something you genuinely want to give? There is, of course, a risk that she won’t like it, but a man should be willing to take on a challenge.
The gift that made her happiest among the things Joe has given was a set of custom-made makeup brushes. She still uses them, as far as I know. The gift Joe was happiest to receive was a key holder, which he still uses all the time. A gift is meant to be used, after all.
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If it’s a present, why are you choosing something that makes you happy?
A present is supposed to make the other person happy, isn’t it?
Why not just give her cash? I’m sure she’d be thrilled.
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I’m in favor of shopping for it together.
I’ve already set a date for this year, and I expect I’ll still be seeing the girl I’m currently dating through Christmas, so we’ll go shopping together during our date. We’ve already made plans.
However, if her appearance is such that you can’t be seen walking around together, order it online together from indoors.
If you want it to be a surprise, you need to do some very thorough research beforehand; otherwise, it’s just self-indulgence.
If you’re giving her a gift purely for your own satisfaction, then by all means do that. After all, you’re the one paying for it.
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I don’t understand why cash is supposedly not okay. You should just give them something you think they’d be happy to receive. I always give a present along with some extra cash.
If not cash, an Amazon gift card might be the next-best option.
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It’s probably best to avoid surprises.
Personally, I’d rather receive something I actually want.
I wouldn’t wear something that isn’t to my taste.
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I’ve given a similar answer before, but I think the best thing to do is ask them what they want.
If it’s not something they actually want, they probably won’t use it, and that feels like a waste. That said, I never sell the things I’m given, so I’d be happy if they asked me what I wanted.
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I’d be happy simply knowing that he wants to get me a Christmas present!
That said, honestly, I want something I actually like. I understand that cash is the best option for some people, but I’d personally be happier receiving something I want than money. I see presents as being something tangible, not cash. Maybe that’s old-fashioned…
But I don’t want something I have no use for—I want something I actually want. So I think it’s best to ask her directly or go shopping together. If you don’t know what she wants, it’s probably better to ask rather than try to surprise her.
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Female member Potassium here.
Oh, I thought that was really sweet—and sounded fun, too. That said, cash is definitely the most useful gift. I understand feeling hesitant about it, but it’s probably the safest option if you want to avoid getting it wrong.
If you want to give her something tangible, every papa-katsu woman has her own likes and dislikes, so it could be pretty disappointing if you miss the mark. In my case, even if something can be resold, I feel uncomfortable doing that. So I’m happiest with things that would be financially difficult to buy for myself, or something I’ve been wanting to replace but keep using because the old one still works—things like that.
If you’re not set on making it a surprise, I think the safest options are to suggest a few things or go shopping together. For a surprise, adding a little something extra to the allowance would probably prevent any disappointment.
If you have a fixed budget, you could suggest items priced below your actual budget by the amount you plan to spend on the surprise. As long as she doesn’t realize it, you can still keep it a surprise.
That’s just my personal opinion, though.
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Why not go shopping for the gift together?
Personally, I’d be even more uncomfortable giving something that’s easy to convert into cash than giving cash itself...
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