I’m a college student in love with a professor in his 40s. I’ve been trying to get closer to him by visiting his office frequently, but he probably doesn’t see me as a woman.
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The other day, I casually asked whether he had a wife, but he replied that it was a secret.
Men around his age: would you ever answer “that’s a secret” if a woman asked whether you had a spouse? If so, in what kind of situation?
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It’s just like the situation in Shinji Nojima’s drama *Papa-katsu*—it feels exciting, almost like being in a TV show.
Unless he’s exceptionally handsome—an ideal older guy—men generally don’t dislike being pursued by women.
If you can keep it a secret, there may be a chance. But given his age, he’s probably married, so it might be difficult to get him to take you seriously.
If you’re okay with being his mistress or having a friends-with-benefits relationship, it still seems like there could be potential.
If papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) works for you, go ahead and pursue him aggressively.
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I’m in my 30s.
No, I don’t. I’m completely upfront that I’m married at all times, and I wear my wedding ring too.
I may get carried away sometimes, but if I hinted at keeping things secret and gave her false expectations in that situation, there’d be a very high chance of things blowing up in my face.
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If you care about him, try to see things from the professor’s perspective.
Even if something happened, you probably wouldn’t suffer any major consequences, but the professor could potentially lose his job.
Anyone with common sense would naturally be wary of getting involved with a student they teach.
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I think they hate having someone interfere from the sidelines and drag them down into despair when they’re living a happy life.
Does it really make you happy to ruin someone else’s happiness?
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I would never answer, “That’s a secret.” It just feels instinctively gross to me to say that.
I’d probably choose between answering honestly, “I’m married,” or lying and saying, “I’m divorced and single,” and respond right away.
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No.
Maybe it was the fact that he asked about it in such a roundabout way that creeped her out.
It’s also creepy that, after his post about his desires was hidden, he reposted it as a question.
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