I don’t volunteer it, but sometimes a papa asks early on.
I’d be okay with telling him after we’ve been seeing each other for a while, but you’d think twice about it in the early stages, right?
By the way, I tell them my first name right away since it’s also the name on my LINE account.
As for my last name, it’s not particularly unusual, and I don’t use my real name on Facebook or anything, so I’ve ended up telling them that too. Am I being too careless about protecting my privacy?
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A totally pointless post about Killdore Osaka’s way of thinking, lol.
Seriously, it’s just another pointless fantasy of mine, so please ignore it as usual, lol.
When I first entered the working world as an unknown newcomer, my job was basically to put my real name on my business cards and hand them out everywhere. But the harsh reality was that people wouldn’t remember not only my name, but even my company’s name, so I felt like I had to desperately build a name for myself.
Eventually, people in the industry and at client companies started remembering me, and I managed to survive. But no matter how many years passed, I still never got to see the other person naked, lol.
In that sense, a woman who lets me see her naked is incredibly special. Someone who does something that takes that much trust? There’s no way I could ever make her feel bad or do anything wrong by her, lol.
She won’t tell me her real name? That’s kind of funny, though, lol.
Once she’s already let me see her naked, the significance of that special act doesn’t change for me. Compared with a relationship where she only tells me her real name, I’d still want to give priority to the former, lol.
Oh, my real name? That’s no big deal, so I tell them right from the start, lol. Of course, I don’t want it spread around without my permission, and it’s not like I’m trying to cheapen the value of my name, lol. I give my name because I intend to act responsibly, and I can only hope the other person isn’t someone who would misuse it.
Still, the idea of showing me her naked body while hiding her real name feels strange to me on an instinctive level. Sure, if you go to an adult entertainment establishment, you don’t ask for or hear anyone’s real name, lol. Maybe I’m supposed to adopt that kind of mindset?
If so, I can switch over to that way of thinking too—but then I end up wondering, “Wait, when did I walk into an adult entertainment establishment?” It just feels strange, lol.
Anyway, that was my completely pointless thought, lol.
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Personally, I just don’t like it when someone and I have gotten fairly close, yet their entire full name is still fake.
I haven’t continued seeing anyone whose full name was completely made up.
If they’ve told me their first name through their LINE profile or something similar, that’s enough for me.
In fact, when filling out hotel forms, I even put down my club name.
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I don’t readily share personal information like my full name, so I’m not particular about knowing the other person’s real name either.
In the past, someone I had a casual sexual relationship with nearly started stalking me, so I’m still reluctant to reveal my identity. For women, that concern is probably even stronger.
That said, I do feel more favorably toward someone who properly introduces herself than someone who tries to hide her identity—it makes me feel that she trusts me.
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> By the way, I usually tell them my first name right away since it’s also the name on my LINE account.
That’s more than enough.
I don’t usually ask, but as long as I can address you by your real first name, that’s fine.
Since I use my real name, people often tell me their full names right away. But unless it’s a simple name, I’ll forget the family name—and even how to read it, since I never call them by it during the relationship—so I’d actually prefer that they didn’t tell me their family name.
> As for people who ask right after meeting...
I don’t think you should pursue an arrangement with someone like that.
I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone myself, even outside the club...
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I don’t think anything will happen from knowing your real name alone. But as you talk, you may end up casually revealing things like your company’s name or where you live.
Once that information is combined with your real name, all kinds of things can happen—such as harassment at your workplace or the other person showing up at your home.
For some reason, society is relatively tolerant when men say they’re meeting women and having sex, but it tends to judge women much more harshly. If people find out, you could lose your standing at work, or the other person might show up at your home, causing everyone in the neighborhood to find out and making it difficult for you to live there comfortably.
So, as you said, it’s wiser not to share your real name until you know that the man is trustworthy.
That said, some men may get upset if you refuse to tell them your real name. If you’re confident that you won’t reveal any other identifying information, then I suppose you could choose to tell him.
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Once we’ve decided to start seeing each other and have gotten fairly comfortable, I bring it up naturally.
Everyone gave me their business card or showed me their website at the first meeting, so I felt I could trust them. But whether we actually like each other and decide to continue seeing each other are separate matters, so I take it one step at a time while seeing how the relationship develops.
In some cases, people had already included my full name, workplace, family details, and so on in their replies to my thank-you email after the first meeting, so I really do think it’s a difficult issue.
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When people search my name, they can find all kinds of personal information about me. A papa I gave my real name to looked me up online, harassed me at my workplace, and I ended up having to seek help from a lawyer.
I can’t go into specifics here because it would reveal my identity, but none of this would have happened if I hadn’t given him my real name. I don’t think anyone who hasn’t experienced it can understand how frightening it is. He’s creepy, so please stop contacting me.
Ever since then, I’ve felt that I don’t want to give my real name to men I meet privately, even at social gatherings. I guess I just don’t want to tell anyone anything unless I trust them…
There are a lot of dangerous people out there, so I don’t think you need to force yourself to share it.
Once you become close, you’ll naturally learn each other’s real names. And I don’t think I can become close to someone who asks right away. I’m fine with that.
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I know the full legal names of all the women I’m currently seeing.
I don’t go out of my way to ask, but some women give me their business cards right from the start, and sometimes I happen to see their names after a few dates.
So I don’t think I’m being particularly careless when it comes to personal safety.
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